I’m 49 and my mum is 82. She’s as sharp as a button and living her lovely life with her ( long suffering) partner. So why does she constantly feel the need to pick out the things she deems I do wrong? So tonight’s phone conversation has brought up 1) “she noticed at Christmas how untidy my children’s rooms are and that when us children lived at home she had no problem keeping us all under control “
We live in a small house due to my divorce. I have three semi grown up children and a dog and I run my own business. I do my best.
2) for the first time since being on my own ( 5 years) I’m going away for two nights with my ‘boyfriend’ and my dog. “ she questioned me leaving the children behind although they are 22,19 and 15 and the older two look after the youngest. And said” I am concerned that you are leading the children to believe that marriage is worthless and that going with different men is fine “.
3) she said I “do too much and need to step back as it appears I’m not coping “ As if I have a choice to not do too much !!!!
Finally I have to tell her how much I have in my bank account as she “wants to top it up if I don’t have enough “
I don’t need her money as I work v hard to survive. But every now and then she sends me cheques. Which whilst very very generous of her, I don’t really want !
I want to stand up to her but when I did a year ago by waiting for her to call me as she NEVER does, she shouted at me and said it was my duty as a daughter to call HER. not the other way round.
Feeling a tad exhausted and upset.
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Why does my mum aged 82 still put me down?
Choclover27 · 23/01/2018 21:17
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