I know I shouldn't have and regret it now, but Fiancée left his Facebook account logged in and I took a snoop. So have seen that he hasn't been doing a lot of searching for photos on many different occasions of his children's old au pair! She's a young attractive lady and seeing his search history has really upset me. There can't really be any innocent explanation other than he finds her attractive and likes look at pictures of her.
I don't really know what to do or whether to say what I've seen!
He was also looking up on several occasions a woman he had a short fling at work with (before my time!)
What would you do? Is this just standard male behaviour?? If they're not looking at porn they're looking at pictures of attractive women they know??? I don't know if I've over reacting?
I have massive self confidence issues, ex husband was emotionally abusive and always putting me down (and still does) and he also cheated on me when our son was a few weeks old so also trust issues ! Am working with a therapist at the moment to try and help, I just have moments of complete disbelief as to why my fiancée would want to be with me and convince myself he really wants to be somewhere else and with someone else: when something like this happens and I see he's looking up exes and ex au pairs photos I go into complete panic mode!
Super nosy person here too. No interest in them other than curiosity. I look at exes Facebook pics too even though I'm no longer attracted to them nor would ever want anything to do with them. Pure noseyness
As long as he's not contacting her and trying to hook up with her, I don't think it's an issue. I snoop on all sorts of people from my past, including exes, random friends of friends I got drunk and had sex with in my 20s, etc. I'm just nosy. If anything, it's because I sort of enjoy judging people. I do NOT in any way find any of them at all attractive or have any desire to ever contact any of them. I think you're overthinking this.
The thing is, it's ok to look isn't it? I'm mostly attracted to the way people are rather than how they look. But there was a photo of some star, Tom Hardy I think, that I just kept looking back at. I am happily married, and of TH walked in here now & winked at me I'd probably run a mile. And attractiveness is not finite, just because TH has it doesn't mean to my oh doesn't. I imagine most people in relationships that they are truly committed to like the look of others from time to time. I do sympathise, everybody like to feel like the one and only, but when I think about it with my head, I realise it's a but of a ' reaction'.