I have seen that my husband has been googling women we both know looking for naked pics of them and when not finding any has looked at porn afterwards. He has done this when I'm sleeping.
I have always told him I've no issue with him watching porn alone or together. Just dont want him to hide stuff. He has always said he doesn't need or like porn. He has occasionally watched it before and I never minded. I am more worried about the lack of connection and him looking at his childhood sweetheart and this other female aquaintance (who fwiw is a horrid person and my brother's ex and who he knows I dislike).
We have two very young ds together. I want to work out how to connect with my husband and gain greater intimacy with him. I feel I could do better meeting his emotional needs. I don't know how. I have Asperger's. His relationship with his mother is strained and I feel he may have childhood issues with her that are causing this and in turn causing marital issues for us.
For what its worth I am slim and attractive enough to turn heads including his. Take good care of myself nails, heels makeup etc which I know he likes my style.
I make an effort in the bedroom. His tastes are very vanilla.
I think he needs to feel more safe with me. Has anyone got any advice for me. Please I just want him to feel alright. He's such a good man. Thanks for reading.
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Can I reach my husband before it's too late?
ProfessorSillyStuff · 22/01/2018 02:43
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