My boyfriend is a lovely person who looks after me very well in so many ways. However his lack of ambition has turned me off. When we got together three years ago I knew that he didn't work - he has since got part-time work in a bar. He is happy to still live at home aged 27 and has no ambition to move out, own a place, get a better job, Etc. He tells me to organise everything (as I'm better at sort of thing) when we do arrange to go away places. He always pays his half, and will treat me to dinner couple times a week. He is from a well enough to do family.
I have a good job, I'm very ambitious and driven. I am getting over two significant losses in my life. When I met my bf I knew he was lost and I wanted to help him. We had got talking in the bar about his depression. I'm 6 years older and I played the older sister role but then we ended up in a relationship.
I loved seeing him change, taking more pride in his appearance. He was genuinely interested in being a good friend listening to me talk about everything that I've been through.
I just feel now that I'm not attracted to him, if I ever was, and I'm wasting his time thinking I'm going to settle down with him. I feel he has no life experience and he's not capable of knowing what true love and commitment is.
He also doesn't drive and I'm resentful of being the one always having to drive us everywhere. He says he is who he is - and I shouldn't have got involved thinking I'd change him. We have had this conversation before but that's always his answer.
I want him to be ambitious and have a life plan but he doesn't have one. I told him I could never have children with someone who couldn't offer me and a baby stability.
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I don't fancy him anymore
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rightabout01 · 20/01/2018 01:56
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