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lambogirl · 19/01/2018 09:23

Hi everyone

Please help as I have decided to leave my partner

We have been together 2 years and I thought I really knew him.
I moved in with him a few months ago and to be honest, it was a huge mistake.
He's very moody and a few times has lost with temper. He has a very high powered job and it causes him a lot of stress so I've always put it down to that.
But last week he lost his temper and I saw a different side to him.
This week he's just been in a bad mood and now I'm left to wanting to leave.
I can't believe I've been so silly and put my trust into someone so early on.
I know I can do it again as I have in the past. But I still feel so hurt and lost.
We was speeding up in the car on the motorway doing 90 and as it was my car I was saying slow down and he didn't. He then said il put this car over a cliff if you don't shut up.
This anger has come from nowhere.
Please tell me I'm doing the right thing

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pog100 · 19/01/2018 09:29

Of course you are doing the right thing. A relationship is supposed to make you feel loved and cared for not scared and worried about moods. Get out as quickly and cleanly as you can, it's much easier now than it would be in 10 years. You are still seeing things clearly now. Good luck and come here for help.

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hellsbellsmelons · 19/01/2018 09:59

Of course you are doing the right thing.
You cannot and should not have to live like this.
You have your head screwed on and you can trust your own feelings.
Get ready for all sorts of promises to change etc....
It won't happen.
He's shown you who he is and pretty early on as well.
You are allowed to put your trust in someone.
And you are also allowed to leave any relationship when ever you like!
This is not working for you.
No other explanation required.

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Deecee1012 · 19/01/2018 10:09

His anger hasn't come from nowhere...it's in him.
You've had a very strong warning signal here so please, follow your instincts and leave the relationship.
We ALL make mistakes and hopefully we learn from them...yes you'll feel hurt and you'll feel lost. It will pass.

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lambogirl · 19/01/2018 10:19

Thank you everyone
He has started speaking to me in a really horrible manner and since noticing it it has got worse
I'm staying at my mums this weekend and planning how to leave
He's already made it clear it's not going to be smooth process as when I said I'm leaving he said it's not happening
I can't live like this

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Cricrichan · 19/01/2018 10:22

Yes you're doing the right thing. Some people don't show their true colours until you're kind of committed to them so don't blame yourself. Are there children involved?

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hellsbellsmelons · 19/01/2018 10:31

when I said I'm leaving he said it's not happening
WOW - so he's a controlling asshole as well.
You are a grown up and can leave when ever you like.
I hope your weekend away from it all helps and you get support from your family.
Just get out fast.
This is not going to improve.
Well done recognising it early on.

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Deecee1012 · 19/01/2018 11:02

Your a strong and intelligent woman!! You've done exactly the right thing.

I hope the space away has helped? Can I also suggest that contact with him is kept limited and don't be drawn into arguments etc. If you need to collect anything - make sure you have company with you.