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If you didn't meet your partner , who would have been your second option?

(27 Posts)
Comedyshortsgamer Mon 18-Dec-17 20:47:06

Just for fun

I would say the man by mum wanted me to be with.

whoareyoukidding Mon 18-Dec-17 20:54:07

Tricky. I didn't really want anyone else, so I suppose I would have remained single until someone came along who I liked.

Fragglewump Mon 18-Dec-17 20:56:28

Idris Elba

RJnomore1 Mon 18-Dec-17 21:00:09

I'm currently debating between keanu reeves and Adam driver. Will update you when I figure out who wins.

Bells1234 Mon 18-Dec-17 21:16:13

Tom hardy 😍 He could read me bed time stories! Lol

NK1cf53daaX127805d4fd5 Mon 18-Dec-17 21:23:04

Damon Albarn or Eric Cantona 🤣🤣🤣

Animation86 Mon 18-Dec-17 21:23:46

Probably a woman

MrsBonato Mon 18-Dec-17 21:26:25

The guy I went on a date with a week before I met my DH is now living as a woman. I don't think that would have worked out.

SnowWhitesRestingBitchFace Mon 18-Dec-17 22:16:12

I've always had a bit of a 'one who got away' type of relationship with a guy I knew from back in my hometown. It was a series of bad timings (think Where Rainbows End/Love Rosie though not as dramatic or romantic 😂).

Until I met my now DH I genuinely though this man was the real love of my life and that I just had to accept I would never be with him because fate or whatever else you want to call it just wasn't on our side.

I still think of him fondly now but the intense feelings I had for him weakened significantly almost immediately after meeting my DH (who I genuinely do feel is my soulmate) but who knows how I would have felt now if I hadn't of met him!

mindutopia Mon 18-Dec-17 22:29:01

I would probably be single and doing IVF on my own. I met my dh literally two months after I gave up on men, quit my job, gave up my flat and moved half way around the world because I was just fed up with life and wanted a fresh start.

Dozer Mon 18-Dec-17 22:32:14

No exes that I would want a relationship again or past crushes that got away, so it’d have to be someone have never met, or perhaps have met and vaguely fancied but might’ve got to know and dated had I been single!

Ideally I would’ve liked to marry someone from my home city and lived there!

VioletDaze Mon 18-Dec-17 22:50:13

A woman. DH is one of a limited number of men I've ever really fancied.

GeekyWombat Mon 18-Dec-17 22:53:11

Since I saw The Last Jedi, Adam Driver.

Oh it’s a confusing time...

TeeBee Tue 19-Dec-17 08:14:18

Cillian Murphy.

corythatwas Tue 19-Dec-17 08:35:07


InfiniteSheldon Tue 19-Dec-17 08:37:40

ddog, I'd of been happy with just my ddog happier with dh but only because the dog likes him

Ilovecrumpets Tue 19-Dec-17 08:52:20

A year before I met my STBX I met an amazing guy when travelling in my own. We travelled together for the summer, just as friends, but I was intensely attracted to him. On the last evening he told me he felt the same. He was American though and I lived in the UK so we parted leaving it as a holiday nearly romance.

I thought about him once I was back in the UK, but met STBX and tried to put him out of my mind. 2 years later he managed to get in touch with me via a letter where he said he had never stopped thinking about me and although it seemed crazy he wondered if we should see what might happen. I wanted to reply but had been with STBX for a year at that point so didn’t get back to him.

I’ve often thought about him over the years. The logical part of me can see it is probably a fantasy but there is a small part of me that has always wondered. I have never felt that way about anyone else before or since.

chatwoo Tue 19-Dec-17 08:57:24

I think more holidays and perhaps a pet would have been my second option wink

Tinselistacky Tue 19-Dec-17 09:00:53

A ldr from years ago always left me with 'what if' feelings. So prob him.
<sigh >

sinceyouask Tue 19-Dec-17 09:02:09

Slash, I think.

rollingonariver Tue 19-Dec-17 09:19:54

Probably my ex, he proposed to me but I'd already met current fiancé and I knew I wanted to be with him confused (I didn't cheat, but knew from when I met him) that would have been awful! Looking back we shared none of the same values.
I sometimes wonder about my first love too, everyone thought we'd end up together even though we didn't date. Random people would say we were fated but we stopped talking when we were about 14 so idek what he's like now 😂

RedForFilth Tue 19-Dec-17 10:17:16

I don't really have a partne right now, just someone I'm seeing (I'm not after anything heavy due to having my son). But my "one that got away" would be a guy from Chile. We've both said we would be together if we lived in the same country. He was here for 2 years when we were younger. Has been back a few times since and we always have a few weeks romance providing we're both single!

SkaPunkPrincess Tue 19-Dec-17 10:27:20

Ryan Reynolds. Or a woman.

colouringinagain Tue 19-Dec-17 10:27:22

A lovely, cute, kind, fun young man I met after I'd just ended a major relationship. I didn't take it any further as I didn't think it was great timing. But have always wondered what if. An acquaintance of mine met him five years after I did and thought he was fab... Ben.

Camomila Tue 19-Dec-17 10:51:18

I was only 20 when I met DH so I think my second option would have been 'gap year to my uncles house in Chile after uni'

There was another boy I fancied as much as DH at the time and he's now some kind of mindfulness guru - we would not have lasted!

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