I’ve been with my DH for 10 years, we have no children due to fertility issues on his side.
His behaviour is, at times, abusive. I don’t think he realises it’s not normal to have massive anger issues. We had a lovely day out yesterday, then he had too much to drink & proceeded to raise his voice, call me a cunt & telll me to fuck off at dinner (nice restaurant, had been a lovely meal) to the extent that I walked out & came home. He has ruined so many occasions by behaving like this. I was actually scared he was going to be violent towards me last night, his face was so full of anger.
On the other hand, he supports me, loves me & looks after me more than anyone else i’ve ever known.
I’m strong willed & do hold my own, but I don’t want to be that person either.
I’ve got to the stage that his behaviour is making me hate & resent him, but I do genuinely love him too.
I’m sitting crying, because I don’t want my life to be like this, but I also don’t want to be single approaching 40 & feel like I need to start all over again. It’s hard enough knowing i’ve lost my chance to have a family, I don’t want to be alone too.
Is it worth suggesting /insistent on counselling to see if there’s any way forward, or do I accept it’s over & move on
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Sussex1983 · 18/12/2017 11:36
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