I've been seeing this guy casually, and usually he'd always initiate contact, text/call lots, and wanted to see me every week. But for the past month or so, he's just been so distant and can go days or sometimes over a week without contacting me. I understand he went back to college so has been fairly busy with that. He's made some new friends and he's busy with new projects. I don't think I've been clingy (if anything I make it a point to be the opposite). I haven't constantly been texting him and I've been doing things with other friends etc.
A week ago I asked if he wanted to meet and he replied "I honestly want to but I'm feeling pretty ill today, but we can have a phone chat if you like?". So I called him and he did indeed sound fairly ill so I told him to get some rest. The next day he texted me asking what I was up to. I said I was probably going to see family and he replied "Oh I could have met you. I'm feeling better now". So then I said, "well actually I can meet you if you like and see family tomorrow?" but then he didn't seem sure and ended up making an excuse. Then I heard nothing from him for a week, so yesterday I messaged him saying "hey you seem a little less talkative lately, anything wrong?". He called me back straight away saying that nothing was wrong, he was just busy helping at his college Christmas party and that he'd try and see me soon. He sounded genuine.
Then last night I got a text from him, saying he was playing a small gig with his new college friends and asked if I wanted to come and see him. He sounded so excited and proud. I said I'd try and make it, only it was very last minute so there weren't any buses on time. He said "no worries, it would have been nice but I'll see you tomorrow if you like", which was promising.
So tomorrow came (which was yesterday), and I got a text from him asking what I was doing. I said "nothing much, you wanna meet?". He replied "I don't know, I want to but I'm feeling really anxious today. I can't even leave my room" so I said "okay well let me know if you want to do anything and I'll come meet you, but no worries if not". A few hours went by and I heard nothing so I just asked "you staying in then? everything ok?" but he never replied. It's been almost 24 hours now. I can see he's online playing a video game on Steam so he can't be that bad.
I'm just a little anxious that he's distancing himself from me. In the past we've never had issues like this. He always seemed keen on communicating with me, even when he was having issues with anxiety. But now I'm starting to feel like a burden on him, or I'm worried he's met someone else at college. For the past few weeks he's been saying things like "I'll try and see you next week" or "I'll call/text you later" only he always forgets to get in touch. Any ideas?
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Is he deliberately avoiding me or am I just being paranoid?
NeonPalmTree · 17/12/2017 13:31
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