37 weeks pregnant and on maternity leave. My OH (other half) works 5 nights a week, 9pm - 9pm. Hes in his thirties.
Every second he gets at home is spent on his xbox at the minute. Fine by me as he works hard, except it's starting to impact daily life.
On the 5 nights he's working he will get home from work at 9am and then play his games until around 2.30pm then go to sleep until 6ish, eat then go to work. It's hardly a healthy amount of sleep given how he works 12 hours through the night thus hes always tired. He is also impossible to wake up for work due to so little sleep and ends up being late for work half of the time.
When he has nights off like yesterday he will get in from his last shift around 9am in the morning, play computer games all day until 7 or 8pm, sleep through the night and then in the morning (today) he will go on the games again from waking at 10am and sit on them all day long until it's time to go to work again tonight.
I've been sat twiddling my thumbs all day unable to watch tv my self as he's using it for his gaming. Complications means I'm not very mobile at the moment so cant get out much and i can't use the bedroom tv for television programs as we don't have a signal in there. Ive watched every DVD we own and read umpteen books.
We haven't spent any quality time together for a while, I used to look forward to his nights off and we would watch movies or go to bingo, now all he seems to do is play his games with his online friends. There is no social stimulation whatsoever.
I'm also a bit worried about how this will affect our co-parenting when the baby arrives.
I've been sat on the sofa all day long watching him play these bloody games.
I just want a bit more normality in the house and to be able to enjoy his company when he's not at work. I also worry about the impact the excessive gaming will have on his job given how he's never in on time.
Am I being unreasonable to feel a bit pushed out and neglected, frustrated and concerned? Should i cut him some slack?
I'm so frustrated with all of this but he doesn't take criticism well and sees his gaming as the only time he gets to himself as he works so much.
I raised it in haste the other night after we ended up having a heated discussion, he wasn't waking up for work as he had been gaming all day and when I told him it's ridiculous he had a face on when he went to work and still the next morning when he got home.
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Pregnant with a gaming addict partner
Tumbleweeds24 · 16/12/2017 20:20
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