I’ll try to keep this as short as possible. Not sure if I’m being unreasonable and a party pooper.
Last year DH and I were invited to his sisters on Boxing Day. Our DS was only 8 weeks old at the time. We arrived at around 4pm and agreed we would only stay a few hours as I was tired and DS being so little. Lo and behold the whole thing descended into the whole lot of them (DH, fil, bil, sil, DH’s cousin and her partner etc) getting pissed and staying in the kitchen smoking, drinking and shouting. I was left in the front room with DS and MIL. MIL sensed it was going to end up that way so left about 6pm, asking if I wanted to join her. I said no because at that point people were only ‘merry’ and were actually sitting in the front room with me. By 8pm I was left on my own. I couldn’t even go into the kitchen because DS wouldn’t let me put him down and the kitchen was full of smoke. At 9pm I packed DS up, knocked on the kitchen door and said I’d had enough and was walking back to the car. Cue everyone saying sorry and DH insisting on walking me to the car/coming home. Anyway, he stayed at SIL’s and I received a call from BIL at around midnight to say DH was asleep on their sofa.
When DH arrived home the next day he could tell I wasn’t happy and was very apologetic. I told him there and then that there was no way I would be going to SIL’s this Boxing Day. I have repeated this throughout the year and even mentioned it last week. DH agreed.
Yesterday we received a message from SIL inviting us round for the X family party and saying how lovely it will be to get together blah blah. I just looked at DH and reminded him that I will not be going.
DH is now in a mood because “Christmas is about family” and he’s promising not to get drunk etc etc. He forgets that we’ve been together for almost 20 years and I know what his family is like around drink. Also DS is now 14 months old and is a stickler for his routine. He goes to bed around 7pm-7.30pm and I’ve only just got him sleeping in his cot after 12 months of cosleeping. Laying him on SIL’s bed (or some blankets as she suggested) is just not going to work.
We also spending Christmas Day with MIL, FIL, BIL & SIL (and their spolit daughter) so it’s not like we’re not spending any time with them over Christmas.
Am I being unreasonable? Last year frankly tainted my first Christmas with my DS, even if that does sound a little precious
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Perspective needed please AIBU?
TheSleeperandTheSpindle · 16/12/2017 10:31
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