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Blackmail

(126 Posts)
user21 Thu 14-Dec-17 15:20:38

It’s tricky for me to go into detail but I think I may have just done this.

Has anyone else ever found themselves in this situation on either side for whatever reason?

I feel uneasy 😟

scurryfunge Thu 14-Dec-17 15:22:21

If you are blackmailing someone and they report it to the police you may end up being interviewed.

user21 Thu 14-Dec-17 15:28:44

It’s not really a criminal/police matter though

Not that serious, just something that I have said/threatened to do that seemed appropriate at the time but I’m now thinking my be wrong.

scurryfunge Thu 14-Dec-17 15:35:10

Ah, ok maybe not proper blackmail then. Any more info you can give?

user21 Thu 14-Dec-17 15:42:20

Blackmail probably too strong word.
Sorry, my head all over the place.

I suppose I would like to hear from others on either side of this situation so I can gauge if I’m being reasonable or not.

Probably not being fair as I’m not prepared to divulge more info myself.

AnyFucker Thu 14-Dec-17 15:45:21

What situation ?

How can we comment on this without knowing what you are talking about ?

Angelf1sh Thu 14-Dec-17 15:51:23

You’re not going to get much of a response if you don’t explain what you mean. I doubt anyone is going to admit to having/been blackmailed anyway.

PNGirl Thu 14-Dec-17 16:16:33

Nobody who has been blackmailed is going to tell you the blackmailer was justified and it was a grand experience.

Sullabylullaby Thu 14-Dec-17 16:21:36

Are you going to go through with the threat?

user21 Fri 15-Dec-17 06:40:13

I wasn’t asking for comments on my situation just other experiences of blackmail and did say it probably wasn’t fair asking people to share.

Yes. I will go through with the threat.

dertyyuoih2 Fri 15-Dec-17 06:53:38

If your doing this .........

Blackmail is an act, often criminal, involving unjustified threats to make a gain—most commonly money or property—or cause loss to another unless a demand is met.[1][2] It is coercion involving threats to reveal substantially true or false information about a person to the public, a family member, or associates, or threats of physical harm or criminal prosecution.

Then it’s a criminal offence.

SD1978 Fri 15-Dec-17 06:53:59

Sorry- like everyone else has said, without knowing who you said what to and in what context, no way to give you an answer

JediStoleMyBike Fri 15-Dec-17 06:56:47

Why should others open up to you when you are being cryptic and evasive? I'm hoping it's because you are ashamed but I doubt it.

SleepFreeZone Fri 15-Dec-17 06:58:17

Sounds like you might mean you gave an ultimatum?

Sullabylullaby Fri 15-Dec-17 06:59:38

So you're knowingly going to commit a criminal offence. Clever girl.

Ellisandra Fri 15-Dec-17 07:01:32

I was blackmailed as a child by a sibling.
I felt angry and powerless and desperate and isolated and lonely.

Usually when things are shit, you can talk to people. If money is tight, or your boss is an arse... you have a chance to talk it out wit people. With blackmail, you can't because you can't reveal the reason. Or feel you can't.

It's a particularly nasty way to treat someone.

Does that help?

user21 Fri 15-Dec-17 07:08:08

I’m not sure I’m ashamed tbh but my judgement isn’t great atm. In my head it’s fair. He won’t report me to the police.

Ultimatum sounds better. Perhaps coercion
is the best description in this situation.

Ellisandra Fri 15-Dec-17 07:09:17

Oh well coercion is fine hmm

SpartonDregs Fri 15-Dec-17 07:10:20

nobody knows who you are.

what have you threatened and who have you made the threat to?

Ellisandra Fri 15-Dec-17 07:10:39

The thread is pointless without some detail. The same people who say one thing, may say quite another if they knew what you were actually talking about hmm

user21 Fri 15-Dec-17 07:11:43

Thank you for replying Elisandra
I’m sorry you felt like that.

Ellisandra Fri 15-Dec-17 07:17:16

But not sorry that you're prepared to make someone else feel that way?

It was 35 years ago btw - still remember those feelings of helplessness.

Angelf1sh Fri 15-Dec-17 07:27:36

Coercive behaviour is also potentially a criminal offence.

If you’re sorry for what you said, apologise and take it back. If you’re not sorry and think it was fair to say, why are you here?

user21 Fri 15-Dec-17 07:35:11

I’m here Angelfish because I’m trying to work out what to do. The threat will remain but it’s whether to carry it through I’m wrestling with as the time approaches.

Thank you for all the replies. I know I’m being unreasonably evasive.

Sullabylullaby Fri 15-Dec-17 07:35:38

I'm guessing it's threatening an ex/current husband with telling his workplace about his misdemeanours or some such.

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