About 15 months ago I was unfaithful. I deeply regretted this, told DH and apologised. I had felt emotionally neglected which I know is no excuse- but sought comfort elsewhere and things went too far. It only happened once, I realised it was a path to disaster and ended contact with OM.
Naturally DH was devastated when I told him but said he loved me, wanted to save the relationship & would forgive me- and that he respected my honesty in telling him, and we would work things out.
For a few months our relationship seemed to get stronger. We communicated more & both agreed to be totally honest in future about our feelings. I suggested counselling but he said he was fine, he didn't need it. However I went ahead with counselling alone to try to work through the issues I had which contributed to the infidelity, and this work is ongoing with weekly sessions.
However, if troubles me that DH continues to mention the infidelity whenever we have any disagreement/ argument - even though he promised not to. I can understand his hurt, but feel upset he keeps bringing it up while we are trying to move forward and repair the relationship- it's as if every time I do anything which he disagrees with - he will mention it and call me derogatory names in 'punishment'.
He will also betas me for going to therapy saying it's not doing any good and making light of the fact I have MH issues.
Is he BU to do this?
I know I was in the wrong but I chose to tell him in the hope of making the relationship better / having a fresh start.
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Infidelity, forgiveness & moving forward
RadioFrog · 13/12/2017 14:28
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