So I'll preface this by saying that I'm the sort of person who likes to please people and save face because I've found that if I don't my family almost always make a thing out of it.
I have a fairly big family, two brothers and two sisters (all younger than me by at least 7 years so they're mainly older teenagers) and this past few years my relationship with my brothers is deteriorating. The eldest had made nasty comments about me and my unborn baby (who is now 3 months) and is generally not a very nice person as most of my siblings are falling out with him (he's made very homophobic comments in the presence of my sister who is bisexual). My other brother was initially just drifting away naturally as he's busy started a-levels and got a new girlfriend but he also has noticeably shown disdain for me and my sisters lately (incredibly sexist and we are feminist and will talk about that) and the effort he shows towards us has declined considerably.
Previously we have all had a very close relationship but it's all crumbling because of our differences. So my question is, when the boys have shown absolutely no effort at all at my birthday last week, there's not much chance they'll have made any effort towards me, my partner or son at Christmas.
Should I be the bigger person and get them a small thing for Christmas knowing it won't be reciprocated or do I not bother and potentially get a comment made by a family member about the fact that they are the only ones without gifts?
A daft problem to have in the grand scheme of things I know but I really dislike putting in unappreciated and unreciprocated effort - it happens constantly to me with my family.
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