I’ve not had the best history with men (a cheat, an abuser, and walked away when I was pregnant) but I’ve always cling to the hope that their are wonderful men out there because I have happily married friends, wonderful male family members etc who have kept the faith alive.
In the last week I have found out some devastating news that my best friend’s husband and also my cousin’s husband have both cheated and their marriages are now over.
I know this is not really my heartbreak to feel so deeply but I do. These 2 amazing women who both thought they had such happy marriages and families have had their worlds come crashing down. I feel sick and hurt for them.
But the one thing that sticks out to me is that I always assumed it’s unhappy men that cheat... but in these situations it doesn’t seem to be the case? I know you can never know what goes on behind closed doors but for all intents and purposes these marriages were good, happy, stable ones. Loving, financially secure, regular sex, healthy happy children etc.
So why? Why are some men so fucking stupid to ruin their marriages and happy set-ups with women they supposedly love?
I’m honestly starting to believe that all marriages have the potential to be rocked by a pretty face and flattery. That a lot of men are dick lead. In both of these it wasn’t affairs as such but shagging around on stag dos, golfing trips etc.
Why do they do it?
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Are there any good men left?
Winosaurus · 13/12/2017 06:50
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