I just don't know what to do anymore, I feel so alone.
I'm a SAHM whilst he works hard.
I get lonely and I look forward to his company, well I used to anyway.
Every time I say I want to spend quality time together it turns into a row and he'll walk away and leave me crying. If it's over the phone he'll hang up.
I know he gets tired so I've always said go to bed whenever you want to, just could we please spend 10 minutes together first. Even this is too much to ask for.
He told me today that if I wanted to spend time together I should have never bothered having children.
I wish I could switch off about it and care as little as he does, but it hurts so much. I feel so rejected.
He said I should just accept that this is the way it is and we'll spend time together as and when the time is right, so I basically have to play good happy wife and pretend I'm happy with the lack of love and attention and await his company.
But what if that's not what I want. I said it's hard for everyone with work/children but putting in the effort is how you keep it going and he just says no you just have to accept this is what it is.
He said he shows he loves me by doing the school run and that he wouldn't do as much for the DCs if he didn't, but that's loving them! Not me.
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I think I'm starting to hate my husband.
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imnotgoodenough · 07/12/2017 11:07
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