3 years ago I was broken after a physically, sexually, emotionally and financially abusive marriage.
This year I have got a really good new job, ended a relationship with someone who looked like they were about to turn into a cocklodger so my boundaries and self esteem have risen.
But today I did really well. I was messaging someone who I met online. I only started an online profile on Sunday so I was new to it all. I ended up deleting my profile on Tuesday because some of the men on there (POF) were ridiculous. Their messages and hundreds of 'meet me' thing made me feel like a piece of meat so I got rid but gave one guy (who seemed nice) my number before I shut it.
Today the fucker asked me to send him a full length picture (there were two on my profile) so I did and said he couldn't tell if I was fat or not!
I'm a size 12. I've had 3 DC's so I'm not skinny but I'm not fat. 4 years ago I'd have accepted that. I told him to do one and I wouldn't be interested in being with someone who was shallow and willing to start in on my self esteem before he'd even met me!
Small victory but it felt good! Cheeky fucker!
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Rangelife · 06/12/2017 18:39
Yayyy .... well done 👍. How good must you feel ? I have to say OLD to me is like a cattle market , expectations and the front of men and probably women to . I am left thinking to myself seriously would you behave like that if I was infront if you . The mentality of some men like little boys in a sweet shop . I pleased to hear you have you self esteem and boundaries firmly in place . It sounds like to me you have had an awful time , through the hands of some douchebag. 
to you . Your post gives me hope 
When he said I can't tell if you are fat or not (from the picture) immediately my brain just went 'No...' he tried to back track 
I feel so good knowing that at 38 and after a lifetime of shit I finally can tell men to go fuck themselves. I was raped at 11 by my cousin, that piece of shit took my childhood and my EXH nearly took my life and it feels great to be able to say to myself I'm not putting up with any more shit. Im actually being kind to myself. It feels good.
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