I went NC with a man a few weeks ago that I had a very toxic, strange and co-dependent friendship with after realizing that he undermined my self esteem, rejected me, used me for support when his on/off relationship was 'off'and left me feeling generally rotten. It was really hard and I suffered at first but he is leaving my mind now and I can hand on heart say my life is better now he is not in it. It's still early days but the NC has been positive for me - I am even forgetting about him now I don't see him/hear from him which is nice. I've recently got to a peace of mind I wouldn't have thought possible a couple of months ago.
Neither of us have been in touch but I just know that he would have expected me to by now.
Problem is - we have a mutual friend returning to our town for one weekend only, and mutual friend has arranged a dinner for about 6 people. I won't get to see mutual friend otherwise. Before we went NC I had talked to the person I am NC with about said dinner and he said he couldn't go, so I since RSVP'd that I would go, safe in the knowledge that the other man would not be there. I was looking forward to it as well.
But ... of course I now see on the FB invite that he has obviously changed his plans and will go (he wouldn't have accepted the invite otherwise). So my dilemma is this: should I pull out?
I wanted to go and it might be a good chance to show my new self, but it hasn't been that long either and am terrified that he'll get back in my head or that something will happen that makes me feel bad and rejected and it will undo all of the progress I've made. Especially as it's such a small group.
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PurpleAtlas · 06/12/2017 08:03
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