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Help me with a sassy reply!!!

(32 Posts)
Mellowyellow987 Tue 05-Dec-17 20:09:42

Hi single mum for 3 years. First guy I saw for 6 months messed me about something chronic, saying he didn't want commitment then went off with another girl who he's been with for 6-7 months. Broke my heart! Then today I get a message out of the blue saying how it'd be nice to see me when he comes around doing a charity fundraiser in a few weeks, and would I like to bring my daughter as it'd be nice to see me..signed off with a x so all very friendly and after it all ended quite badly between us, but I find it quite bizarre.
What does everyone think is going on???? Give me your thoughts!
Do I
A) ignore the message
B) respond bright and breezy, have a chat and pretend he never broke my heart and it's all fine
C) ask him why he is messaging me after all this time and what does he want?
D) respond and be flirty and then drop him in it with his girlfriend assuming they haven't split up
I suspect he might've got bored with the new girlfriend and fancy a bit on the side but I just don't know how best to reply. Or he could just trying to make amends and be nice. Either way I'd love to be one of these sassy women who kicks time wasters arses but I can never come up with good responses!!! How can I put him in his place/ find out what he's up to?! Any ideas?!!!!

Twodogsandahooch Tue 05-Dec-17 20:13:04

A

LaGattaNera Tue 05-Dec-17 20:13:15

Ignore. You don't need someone like this. Don't engage. That is the best way to deal with arses and will piss him off more than a put down text.

TheNaze73 Tue 05-Dec-17 20:14:15

Option A. I don’t think there’s anything in the message at all

TrojansAreSmegheads Tue 05-Dec-17 20:14:41

a

invite to a charity fundraiser? hes got a nerve trying to tap you for some cash after being such a prick.

VioletCharlotte Tue 05-Dec-17 20:15:09

A. Ignore
Or
E. Tell him to fuck off

IJoinedJustToPostThis Tue 05-Dec-17 20:16:29

A

Offred Tue 05-Dec-17 20:17:04

Ignore and block.

I don’t think you need to try to be sassy. You just need to be your own friend and that means not giving this idiot who hurt you any headspace.

It doesn’t matter what he wants or what he’s thinking.

You could reply with a sassy reply but there’s a risk that any reply could open you up to getting drawn back in.

I’ve seen others suggest ‘sorry, who is this?’ But really I think you should just delete and block. You don’t need to pretend he didn’t hurt you, he did, but equally you need to protect yourself from being hurt again.

ChinwagCharlieBear Tue 05-Dec-17 20:17:53

Who is this?
Your name sounds familiar but I can't quite remember who you are...?

Haha no, I'd go with option A too.

PaintingByNumbers Tue 05-Dec-17 20:19:39

Eurgh is he trying to get a donation off you? Classy.

Greedynan Tue 05-Dec-17 20:20:27

A.

This guy is trouble. He broke your heart.

userxx Tue 05-Dec-17 20:21:30

Ignore

BlessYourCottonSocks Tue 05-Dec-17 20:25:15

Don't bother responding. That will irritate him far more than anything 'sassy' you could say. It makes him completely unimportant and you completely disinterested which is far more satisfying. I'd then block.

Ragwort Tue 05-Dec-17 20:26:56

A.

Sounds like he is just after a donation for his charity event.

BubblesPip Tue 05-Dec-17 20:28:34

Absolutely A.

KungFuPandaWorksOut16 Tue 05-Dec-17 20:31:48

Why would option D even enter your head.
And imagine how awkward it would be if you attempted flirting and he totally ignored your attempts.

Reflexella Tue 05-Dec-17 20:38:47

Answer A.

Silence is the sassiest by far.

Mellowyellow987 Tue 05-Dec-17 20:39:57

Thanks all you lovely fellow mums netters! Ignore was definitely the first and best option #solidarity!! 😘😘😘 xx

Longdistance Tue 05-Dec-17 20:42:10

E, fuck off!

PelvicFloorClenchReminder Tue 05-Dec-17 20:49:27

A all the way.

Beentherelefthimgotthetshirt Tue 05-Dec-17 20:57:16

I quite like "please delete my number". You say nothing else but then he knows you actually got the message. I've done this with one guy who popped up six months later and to every message he sent I replied with those four words. He started sending me his imagined commentary on my life along the lines of: "oh I see. You're seeing someone" etc in an effort to engage me. This dastardly technique drove him nuts but I didn't buckle and say any other words which is crucial so you have to have resolve but it's very entertaining!

Angelf1sh Tue 05-Dec-17 21:16:27

Definitely A, but the bigger issue is why you haven’t blocked him already!

SandAndSea Tue 05-Dec-17 23:08:32

I'd be tempted to reply "Stop all" or "Please unsubscribe". You could just block him though.

Intercom Tue 05-Dec-17 23:15:59

"I suspect he might've got bored with the new girlfriend and fancy a bit on the side"

Intercom Tue 05-Dec-17 23:16:46

Sorry, posted too soon! Was going to say yes, basically that's it. So option A is best!

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