So here is my situation, I am 30 weeks pregnant with my first baby, and it’s not been very easy.
When I first found out I was pregnant, I felt really pleased and excited, although I’m not sure why – I think it’s because I just really had no clue what any of this actually involved, I thought I’d have a fuss made at work, have a lovely time off on maternity leave and it would all be great. I can’t believe how naïve I was.
To start with, I was ill. I’ve never really been ill before but I just couldn’t stop being sick and I think it was then I started feeling quite bad about everything. I had a lot of time off work because of the sickness but even though I wasn’t well enough to go to work I started realising how long the days are and how isolated and weird I felt. I can’t describe it, I just felt like everything was bad. In the summer I said to my husband I thought I wasn’t sure about it but he got really upset/angry, saying he couldn’t believe I said that. I think I was quiet as I thought it was taboo in a way. Anyway he was excited by it and I went along with it and there were times I was happy, bought a couple of cute outfits and toys.
But I’ve never felt so ill. Didn’t enjoy anything this summer because of it. That was when I think the reality hit me, I was thinking, is my life going to be like this, not able to do this and not able to do that, and I don’t know, just didn’t feel happy or pleased or any of the things pregnant women are supposed to feel.
Now, I don’t know, the baby is due in February and I have never felt more depressed about anything in my life. I’m terrified of giving birth but I feel like everyone just sort of brushes it off and says I won't mind about the pain when the baby gets here, and maybe I wouldn't if I wanted the baby but I don't. Sleepless nights and everything and it's all fine if you want the child but what if you don't and you just can't love him?
I feel awful about it all but I suppose I've no choice but to plough on.
I don't know why I'm posting but I have to talk to someone, anyone.
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I hate my new life as a mum to be
darkstarriesky · 05/12/2017 15:47
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