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I leave today!

(85 Posts)
Olicity17 Tue 05-Dec-17 06:48:35

Today i move into my mum and dads. Stbexh is emotionally and sexually abusive. I was trying to live in the same house, amicabley. Its not working.

But my mum and dad have made room for me and the kids there. I have to get the kids to school and then meeting dad so he can help.

Since i have told him i am leaving, he has ramped up the abuse. He is telling me my teenager doesnt want to come with me until the weekend due to some school work she has.

Once i get her to mums she will be happier there. But its actually getting her there.

I have 1 hour left where he could hurt me, before thw school run. Pls hold my hand. I am so scared.

Pengggwn Tue 05-Dec-17 06:50:00

You can do this. flowers Definitely rooting for you here.

category12 Tue 05-Dec-17 06:50:03

flowers you can do this.

Olicity17 Tue 05-Dec-17 06:57:52

Thank you. My dd (7) is excited to to be with me at mums. We are going to have a movie night with dad, while mum is at work.

Olicity17 Tue 05-Dec-17 06:58:45

Sorry, posted too soon.

I just hope i can get dd to come with me. At 14 i cant make her. Its killing me.

Cantchooseaname Tue 05-Dec-17 07:04:08

60 mins, then freedom. How good is that going to feel?
Hope you get sorted.

SparklingSnowfall Tue 05-Dec-17 07:04:18

You can do this OP, today is the first day of the rest of your life thanks

Bibbidee Tue 05-Dec-17 07:20:58

Ring the police if he comes anywhere near you. Don't see it as escalating the drama, see it as asserting yourself and creating a new boundary that it's not going to happen anymore! You got this, I'm holding your hand 💐

Buggeritimgettingup Tue 05-Dec-17 07:23:58

Another hand here. You have less than an hour now you can do this xx

overnightangel Tue 05-Dec-17 07:24:32

Good luck x

Olicity17 Tue 05-Dec-17 07:26:16

Thank you. He has got up. I am gettong things ready in my room.

Thanks for the hand hold and support. I will definitely call the police if anything happens. I am praying he just lets me leave in 20 mins. He wont dare do anything with my dad here.

20 mins to go.

Velvetbee Tue 05-Dec-17 07:26:19

I'm here too. You can do this.

WhooooAmI24601 Tue 05-Dec-17 07:27:22

Hand holding and gentle hugs. You can absolutely do this. Leave and never, never go back. flowers

Olicity17 Tue 05-Dec-17 07:27:33

Oh and just lppked in my jewellery box and my wedding ring has disappeared. I dont wear it. I am not asking him what he has done with it. I am just letting it go

RhinoGirl Tue 05-Dec-17 07:30:06

Here OP, another hand hold.
The minutes will fly by, stay strong you can do this.

Bummybum Tue 05-Dec-17 07:32:22

thanks

Almost there.

Hernameisdeborah Tue 05-Dec-17 07:37:05

You can do this xxx

Ilovewillow Tue 05-Dec-17 07:38:33

You've got this! Stay strong! thanks

rizlett Tue 05-Dec-17 07:40:05

You're making good choices op.

Bobbins43 Tue 05-Dec-17 07:40:27

You are incredibly brave and this is the first step to bigger and better and brighter things for you all. Hold your nerve. We're all here for you x

iggleypiggly Tue 05-Dec-17 07:41:16

Wow, how amazing are you. Here is to the start of a new happy and safe life flowers

twotired Tue 05-Dec-17 07:42:46

You can do this OP. Be very proud of yourself, you are doing something great for you and your DC thanks

GeekyWombat Tue 05-Dec-17 07:46:04

You don’t want your wedding ring anyway. Ignore the mind games. This is the beginning of the rest of your life. Not long now.

KarenW Tue 05-Dec-17 07:51:24

Hand holding here too! What a daft thing to do, taking the wedding ring, unhinged nutter .. good luck in the next step of your lifeflowers

The12DaysOfChristmasArentInNov Tue 05-Dec-17 07:55:42

I hope you are out safely.

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