I have a crush. I recognise it as limerence, it's taking over my mind. He's married. We are just friends really. He doesn't know how I feel about him but I obsess over our meetings, what we say, how he acts towards me. This is nothing new. I've been the same over all my crushes since I was a teenager. My crushes have never ever fancied me.
I have had 4 major relationships in my life, including my exH, and they have basically been the same person. Arrogant, self-obsessed men who I have not initially been attracted to but have won me over with charm and dare I say manipulation.
I'm in my mid-40s now and want to stop the cycle, and thanks to lots of counselling have seen the pattern in the men I end up with. I'm not going there again but this is the first person I've been attracted to post-divorce and I'm really disappointed in myself that the old massive-crush-cycle is still happening!
I've never fancied someone and ended up with them. The guys I have fancied have never been interested in me. FFS! -will I ever have a healthy relationship?
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Limerence and bad relationships - is there a connection?
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SleepIsForTheWeek · 03/12/2017 23:37
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