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What age were you married?

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thebestnamesweretaken Sun 03-Dec-17 20:29:01

I'm struggling to process a few comments made of late regarding my (lack of) marriage/proposal.

First my mom tells me "people are always coming up to me and asking why isn't your "lovely" daughter married yet?!"

Secondly of 17 working women I am solely the only one not married or even been engaged, 3 are divorced, one a widow but at least they've had a bite of the cherry.

I'm 33.
Work full time own house and car.
Ok looking and frightfully honest.

At what age did people on here meet people or get engaged/wed?

My confidence is fractured so please be gentle 😔

MrBloomsLeftVeg Sun 03-Dec-17 20:30:49

Met at 27. Was 3 months married by the time my daughter arrived on my 29th birthday

ShowOfHands Sun 03-Dec-17 20:31:48

DH and I were 17 and 18 respectively when we met and 23 and 24 when we got married.

We're 35 and 36 now and most of our friends have only settled down and had children in the last couple of years.

sunshinestorm Sun 03-Dec-17 20:31:56

I was 20! I'm now 25 and some people are still horrified at how young I am to be married so there's no winning a lot of the time.

Lollipop30 Sun 03-Dec-17 20:32:12

I met my husband at 18, we got married when I was 29.

Everyone’s different anyway and if you’ve not actually met the right person yet how are you expected to marry them!!

Lollipop30 Sun 03-Dec-17 20:32:33

I met my husband at 18, we got married when I was 29.

Everyone’s different anyway and if you’ve not actually met the right person yet how are you expected to marry them!!

BobbinThreadbare123 Sun 03-Dec-17 20:32:33

First time 23 and second time 33.

Myneighboursnorlax Sun 03-Dec-17 20:32:41

Met at 19, got married at 25

MrsMac1397 Sun 03-Dec-17 20:33:26

I was 29 when I got married (6 weeks before my 30th) it wasn’t planned that way it was the way it worked out, we were engaged for 2 years and met when we were 23/24.

I don’t think you have to worry, 33 is still young. My friend met his now wife when he was 34. It happens when your ready for it.

JustAWestcountryGirl Sun 03-Dec-17 20:34:43

Met at 24, married at 27.

Do you have a partner OP?

Smarshian Sun 03-Dec-17 20:34:51

I met my DH when I was 21/22 and married when I was 27.

letsdolunch321 Sun 03-Dec-17 20:35:27

Met at 17, married at 23, divorced at 44.

gandalfspants Sun 03-Dec-17 20:36:18

Met at 26, he was 31. Married and bought first house at 29 and 35. DD came along when we were 32 and 37.

Kleokat Sun 03-Dec-17 20:36:33

Not married but have dp who I jointly own our house with and have just had dd. We constantly get asked why we aren't married we've been together 5 years I'm 26.

Everyone is different there are no rules.

WhatToDoAboutThis2017 Sun 03-Dec-17 20:37:44

Started going out at 16, married when we were 23 smile

soundsystem Sun 03-Dec-17 20:37:44

Met at 24, got married at 28. I'm the same age as you and in my group of friends it's pretty evenly split between married and single.

Aph413 Sun 03-Dec-17 20:38:12

For me we met at 15. Engaged at 23. Married at 25. Sister is 37 not married, parents have never questioned it

Mirrorxx Sun 03-Dec-17 20:38:17

Met at 21 and married at 25

MrsMarigold Sun 03-Dec-17 20:38:33

Met at 32 married at 34, first DC at 35. Average among our friends.

Shehz21 Sun 03-Dec-17 20:38:42

I was 21. Currently preggo 24 weeks with DD.
Everyone is different OP. I NEVER imagineg being married at 21 but fell in love with an amazing man who almost 2 years down the line treats me like his queen. Very grateful for that.

Moanyoldcow Sun 03-Dec-17 20:38:44

Met when I was 26, him 23 - got together 27 and 24, married at 33 and 30.

39 and 36 expecting DS2, DS1 is nearly 5.

Mayhemmumma Sun 03-Dec-17 20:39:05

I'm same age as you and married at 24. My peer group are only now getting engaged and married and some of those who married earlier like me are now divorcing. I'm happily married but age isn't really relevant in this.

christmaswreaths Sun 03-Dec-17 20:39:37

I got married just as I turned 32. So only 1 year younger than you!
Plenty of time yet. I was the first one out of my group of friends to get married and have kids, and now I am 45 some are still having children!

PNGirl Sun 03-Dec-17 20:39:42

Met at 18 and 19 (me older), married at 24 and 25. Now 32 and 33.

If it's any consolation, of my 10 or so work colleagues there are 4 singles, 3 living with partners and not engaged, 3 of us married. The other 2 marrieds are in their 40s.

Movablefeast Sun 03-Dec-17 20:41:22

Met at 26 married at 27. Married 21 years.

I say "yay you!" for having financial independence and your own home, those are big milestones.

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