Been with DP 10 years (not married). Dc aged 3. Live together in private rented house. Met when we were 17/18 and I had previous relationships of a sexual nature. He had relationships but never had sex. We were both single when we met each other and I've never cheated on him at all.
Dp qualified as a teacher this year and got employment in a school. I left work to attend University to train in a profession I'm passionate about we are 28/29 years of age. We've always talked about getting married but as of yet we still aren't engaged.
We've been ok over the years normal ups and downs like everyone else. However, yesterday morning dp woke up and said he had a dream I had cheated on him with a women then proceeded to rant about how he doesn't know if I've ever cheated etc and doesn't want to get married if I've cheated etc. (This is literally from a dream so I'm still trying to wake up and In shock). I obviously get angry just at the ridiculousness of it all and storm off. So we spend the day with me downstairs entertaining the child and him upstairs watching tv. He comes down for food a few times and says am I going to apologise yet.
Later on in the evening he does apologise but insists I do to so we leave it at that and things go back to normal. Woke up this morning and he takes the child downstairs and I think great a lie in. Dc comes back up and switches all lights on and try's to get into cupboards etc then goes back downstairs so I lock the stair gate and go back to bed. He then comes up annoyed about how he left the stair gate open all yesterday so why should I have it closed, I explained that it's because I am having a lie in and will open it once I'm done and the child was waking me. Which is different from you watching tv all last night. He says I'm bitter and an ugly bitch and storms downstairs.
He comes up again and says I'm just like his mum very bitter and he doesn't know why he's with me (in arguments before he has said it's because of the child).
Why is he picking fights for no reason we don't fight that much normally. And I don't pressure him for marriage because to be honest I don't care if we do or not. Do you think it's stress related maybe with new job.
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atmywitsends · 03/12/2017 11:35
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