I have been with my partner for 10 years, we have 2 DC aged 4 and 6, we are not married. For the past 4 years we haven't shared a bed, we never have sex, we don't kiss, we don't cuddle, we don't even touch. I don't feel attracted to him anymore so don't want any of this and he obviously feels the same or he'd want some intimacy/physical contact but there really is nothing.
I know he doesn't want us to split up, we live a comfortable life, we both work hard and when we are not working we are doing things for the DC. And I don't want to break up the kids home, he lives for them and would want full custody as would I, plus their happiness is the most important thing at the moment.
Anyway, what I am getting at is that I am feeling lonely - in a relationship sense - and want someone to desire me and find me attractive and I want to feel those things too. I want a physical relationship but not with my partner and I keep fantasising about this. There is no one in particular I fantasise about and I'm certainly not going to go out and try and find this - I'm hardly someone that particularly attracts male attention.
I don't really know why I am posting. Are my feelings really unusual? I think I will just have to wait till the DC are older and then one day I might leave and look for this relationship I crave but it seems such a long way off...
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I just want to be desired and to desire
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endofus · 01/12/2017 22:24
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