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Need guideline on contact with (almost) ex re-kids, please!

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annakarenina2 Fri 01-Dec-17 17:20:04

Hi all.

So after two months of living apart and still fighting, my husband and I have figured it’s best to part for good. I wanted to try counselling but he’s not up for it. Anyway.

During our living apart time he would text me daily asking about our son. It didn’t feel healthy as we were supposed to be on a break. I know he’ll do the same when we split. The convos end up “flowing” for ages via what’s app. Problem is .. I can’t not reply when he asks about our son can I?

Also, how do you move on when you constantly have to see your ex for when they pick up the kids? It literally feels impossible to imagine a time when I would see him and not have the impulse to talk to him or hug him.

How do these arrangements work? How does one go “no contact” (which will need to happen for me to move on) work when kids are involved? I’m so clueless! Don’t know any divorced couples with kids....

Thanks so much in advance.

Mum4Fergus Fri 01-Dec-17 17:44:58

I blocked x on everything except email. Communication/replies only in relation to DS, don't engage in anything else. Pick up/drop offs at school or breakfast club ...

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