I dont know where to start or even what to think with this, but I think I need some sane help..
I am a divorced womanin early 50's, I met a new man, fell in love and moved to be with him. This involved leaving my home country (also his, we come from same country but he had been living here many years) to one where instead of having coffee etc in daytime, it is normal to have a few alcoholic drinks.
So new partner has been alone for a few years too and is used to going out to local bars and having drinks when he feels like it.
But it continues now that I have moved here. Now my problem is that it never ends with a few, but continues to a point where I have to pick him up from local bar as he is too drunk to drive, can barely talk, and when he does his words can be really nasty.
Due to living in different countries we had not lived together before, but had spent many weeks together, and although I knew about the drinking, wasnt prepared for the amount..
I am lucky in that I am very self sufficient and dont rely on him to keep me.
When he drinks a lot he just says he wants to enjoy himself and almost seems to resent me for not wanting to join in.
I like a drink as much as anyone but this amount is crazy.
When I try to talk to him about it he just says thats the way it is here and if he doesnt his friends will be upset.
I feel gutted, I have changed my whole life for this man - dont get me wrong, it was my decision, but im not sure how to handle this problem.
But also I am not going to put up with s**t when I had 28 years of EA marriage either.
Views would be great, sometimes better when you on the outside..
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Livinginhope11 · 01/12/2017 14:51
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