This article really upset me. Having been on the recieving end of similar behavior from two previous partners (both threatened to kill themself when I tried to end the relationship early on) constant lying at the end of the relationship that made me question myself and left me feeling really insecure and worried so the time, yet five months ago my ex left me after we had an argument in the car about him driving really dangerously with our son in the back. He literally screamed his head off and left us at the side of the road. He made me feel as if I drove him mad by daring to call him out on it but he could have killed us, and the way he then cut off all contact with me and his son for weeks made me think I am the abusive one. From then on, I've dealt with a constant slander campaign from him and lost friends over this. As soon as he speaks to them they never speak to me anymore.
My head is reeling and I don't know what is up or down. He does a fantastic job of making me out to be the kind of person described in that article but I know I wasn't. I really loved him and bent over backwards to make him happy, I know I did. I did get more insecure after he told me he had been lying about women at work and had cheated, but wouldn't anyone!?
I feel like I'm going mad. Recently I found out he's been contacting my ex partner and that made me feel really ill because, as I said, they were very similar. I got support from women's charity about this and they said it is harassment as the contact can only be about me and there is no reason to do so.
Was just starting to get stronger, had managed to get the courage to block his bossy and critical emails and tell him only text re. Seeing our son from now on. Was getting better then this article was a massive trigger in the bit about contacting the ex. It made it seem like it was an acceptable thing to do for him and I'm back to square one.
I feel like if he's doing that, he must really think I'm terrible. I am so confused, I blame myself for everything all the time whereas nothing is ever his fault. But this article is showing what he's done (ending the relationship out of nowhere, cutting me off, contacting my ex) as consistent with someone who had been abused.
I feel so lost. I remember leaving the living room and going to sit in the bedroom with our son to make sure he had time to himself.
Every time I see these kind of articles, the advice on what to do is so similar to what he did to me, I think it must have been me. It's put me in an awful state.