I really fancy this man! He's said the same! Do his 'sexting' attempts indicate he just wants a shag?

[spaghettijunctionrocks]

Hi all
I've Namechanged for this
I'm in my early 40s & happily single with a very busy life.
Met a guy randomly who was doing some work for me.
Gorgeous. Connection. Texts started to not be anything about the work....
V complimentary & quite lovely to receive. He's asked me out but since I said yes his texts are basically along the lines of my arse/feeling horny/etx
I don't know how to answer!!!!Obviously not planning on marrying him but quite soon for sexting (only met him 3 times) or is it too early?
I've been out of 'the game' for a while and now wondering if he's just after a shag!?! Any advice welcome !!!

[Zaphodsotherhead]

Yes. Getting sexual over text with someone you don't know that well sounds like he's trying to assess whether you are up for it.

A nice guy would at least want to date you a bit first. But, if you want a FWB, it sounds like he'd fit the bill!

[Shoxfordian]

He definitely wants a shag! If you want more than that then suggest meeting somewhere public in daytime, no alcohol and see how it goes.

[Horsemad]

He probably is after a shag, most men are. But, if you are both single and fancy each other why not?

Just be careful and TAKE PRECAUTIONS!!!

[Shouldileavethedogs]

He wants a shag

[Myheartbelongsto]

Shag

[NoCanoe]

He's clearly sussing you out to see if you are up to shagging on first date.
I find it a bit 'Ewwww' that as soon as you said yes to the date , he moves his texts up a gear to sexual rather than being lovely/complimentary.

[TheNaze73]

I think it’s sex he’s after. Nothing wrong with that if you’re on the same hymn sheet

[spaghettijunctionrocks]

Ha! Thought as much 😉
To be honest I don't have the time & headspace for a relationship so maybe I need to just have some fun!
It's been flippin ages!!!!!

[John89]

How long?

[spaghettijunctionrocks]

A year.

[SashaFiercesMum]

Shag


But if you're single/he's single....Go mingle! 😆

[spaghettijunctionrocks]

Gonna mingle I decided.... 😉
But now the texts have gone kinda 'tell me more about you?' & disclosing a couple of his vulnerabilities .........

[John89]

A year is a long time

[RidingWindhorses]

Inappropriate sexts would put me right off tbh.

[John89]

Some people like it.

[WatchTheFoxes]

He sounds really sleazy. Stay well away!

[LesisMiserable]

Now dh and I had zero sexting before our first date, he was respectful to the last...we s*ged each other's brains out on the first date though 😂 I'd say the only problem with sexting before meeting is that expectations then might not be met. But single, horny? Why not??!

[christmaswreaths]

God I would hate the sexting
If it was me I would blank totally
But if you like it, go for it!!!!

[John89]

If you like it then do it and if it helps you get what you need or want

[Guiltybystander]

Sexting before shagging is not a good idea.

[John89]

Have you had a bad experience

[Ragusa]

I'd find it too much if I didn't know him before. Of you knew him for a while as acquaintances and suddenly there was a mutual acknowledgement of 'hey, you are hot, shall we go out somewhere' then I think sexting in that context may be ok. From a standing start... nope. Too much too soon, I'd worry he just saw me as an object.

[Be3Al2Si6O18]

Yes. And so do yours.

[John89]

What ever makes you happy 😊

[John89]

What did you end up doing