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I really fancy this man! He's said the same! Do his 'sexting' attempts indicate he just wants a shag?

(36 Posts)
spaghettijunctionrocks Wed 29-Nov-17 13:26:08

Hi all
I've Namechanged for this
I'm in my early 40s & happily single with a very busy life.
Met a guy randomly who was doing some work for me.
Gorgeous. Connection. Texts started to not be anything about the work....
V complimentary & quite lovely to receive. He's asked me out but since I said yes his texts are basically along the lines of my arse/feeling horny/etx
I don't know how to answer!!!!Obviously not planning on marrying him but quite soon for sexting (only met him 3 times) or is it too early?
I've been out of 'the game' for a while and now wondering if he's just after a shag!?! Any advice welcome !!!confused

Zaphodsotherhead Wed 29-Nov-17 13:27:46

Yes. Getting sexual over text with someone you don't know that well sounds like he's trying to assess whether you are up for it.

A nice guy would at least want to date you a bit first. But, if you want a FWB, it sounds like he'd fit the bill!

Shoxfordian Wed 29-Nov-17 13:28:04

He definitely wants a shag! If you want more than that then suggest meeting somewhere public in daytime, no alcohol and see how it goes.

Horsemad Wed 29-Nov-17 13:28:33

He probably is after a shag, most men are. But, if you are both single and fancy each other why not? wink

Just be careful and TAKE PRECAUTIONS!!!

Shouldileavethedogs Wed 29-Nov-17 13:30:25

He wants a shag

Myheartbelongsto Wed 29-Nov-17 13:57:18


NoCanoe Wed 29-Nov-17 14:02:34

He's clearly sussing you out to see if you are up to shagging on first date.
I find it a bit 'Ewwww' that as soon as you said yes to the date , he moves his texts up a gear to sexual rather than being lovely/complimentary.

TheNaze73 Wed 29-Nov-17 14:41:51

I think it’s sex he’s after. Nothing wrong with that if you’re on the same hymn sheet

spaghettijunctionrocks Wed 29-Nov-17 17:35:12

Ha! Thought as much 😉
To be honest I don't have the time & headspace for a relationship so maybe I need to just have some fun!
It's been flippin ages!!!!!

John89 Wed 29-Nov-17 22:04:53

How long?

spaghettijunctionrocks Wed 29-Nov-17 23:19:57

A year.

SashaFiercesMum Wed 29-Nov-17 23:23:44


But if you're single/he's single....^Go mingle^! 😆

spaghettijunctionrocks Thu 30-Nov-17 11:29:08

Gonna mingle I decided.... 😉
But now the texts have gone kinda 'tell me more about you?' & disclosing a couple of his vulnerabilities .........

John89 Thu 30-Nov-17 17:34:45

A year is a long time

RidingWindhorses Thu 30-Nov-17 17:43:46

Inappropriate sexts would put me right off tbh.

John89 Thu 30-Nov-17 18:45:42

Some people like it.

WatchTheFoxes Thu 30-Nov-17 18:55:04

He sounds really sleazy. Stay well away!

LesisMiserable Thu 30-Nov-17 19:15:30

Now dh and I had zero sexting before our first date, he was respectful to the last...we s***ged each other's brains out on the first date though 😂 I'd say the only problem with sexting before meeting is that expectations then might not be met. But single, horny? Why not??!

christmaswreaths Thu 30-Nov-17 19:19:27

God I would hate the sexting
If it was me I would blank totally
But if you like it, go for it!!!!

John89 Thu 30-Nov-17 20:12:57

If you like it then do it and if it helps you get what you need or want

Guiltybystander Thu 30-Nov-17 20:17:04

Sexting before shagging is not a good idea.

John89 Thu 30-Nov-17 20:25:14

Have you had a bad experience

Ragusa Thu 30-Nov-17 20:55:50

I'd find it too much if I didn't know him before. Of you knew him for a while as acquaintances and suddenly there was a mutual acknowledgement of 'hey, you are hot, shall we go out somewhere' then I think sexting in that context may be ok. From a standing start... nope. Too much too soon, I'd worry he just saw me as an object.

Be3Al2Si6O18 Thu 30-Nov-17 21:00:25

Yes. And so do yours.

John89 Thu 30-Nov-17 21:17:41

What ever makes you happy 😊

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