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He told me cheated to 'wipe the slate clean'

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aliceralice123 Sat 25-Nov-17 20:44:31

Here goes - My partner and I were going through a rough patch and today he told me that in order for us to move forward he wanted to wipe the slate clean and tell me some truths...

Oh but first...
His previous girlfriend of 5 years he cheated on a LOT, so red flags were up at the start.. I gave him the benefit of the doubt.
He slept with someone else when we were dating and lied to me about it, 8 months later he told me.

What I found out today -
A few weeks into the relationship he slept with another girl, at this point we were living together (yes, it moved quickly!). Half way through the relationship he 'snuggled' with a girl on our sofa. Then about 7 months in he kissed someone else whilst on a work trip but 'declined the offer to go back to theirs'.. I found Tinder on his phone by month 10, questioned him, he said he only downloaded it the other day when we were arguing. By month 11 he was in texting convo with the second girl he slept with to arrange seeing her again..

So my question is.. would you get back with someone who had done this all within the first year of a relationship?!

MyfatheristheKing Sat 25-Nov-17 20:45:47


Cambionome Sat 25-Nov-17 20:46:03

No. No. Absolutely not.

tygr Sat 25-Nov-17 20:46:22

No. You deserve so much better.

Toast3 Sat 25-Nov-17 20:46:34

No....just, no!
So sorry OP 😫

QuietNinjaTardis Sat 25-Nov-17 20:46:38

No. Obviously. He's a wanker and a liar and a cheat and he doesn't give a shit if you know it.

MegFlyAway Sat 25-Nov-17 20:46:42

Dear god no! Why would you have put up with all that?!

Whatififall Sat 25-Nov-17 20:47:07

Wipe that slate clean ready to write on it in future with a partner who loves and respects you.

inlectorecumbit Sat 25-Nov-17 20:47:13

God no.

Life is too short for that shit.

roobrr Sat 25-Nov-17 20:47:22

No way.

One mistake is enough for most people, please don't let yourself be treated like crap.

MyDarlingWhatIfYouFly Sat 25-Nov-17 20:48:32

God no. Are you considering it???

LillyLollyLandy Sat 25-Nov-17 20:48:33

No. I’d walk away. You cannot trust this man.

bastardkitty Sat 25-Nov-17 20:49:14

Absolutely no way.

ijustwannadance Sat 25-Nov-17 20:49:30

Why do you even have to ask?!
He will never change. Have some self respect and tell him to fuck right off.

lookatyourwatchnow Sat 25-Nov-17 20:49:59

I can't believe you need to ask!

TangledSlinky Sat 25-Nov-17 20:52:31

Fuck no! Why are you even asking?

NearlyChristmasNow Sat 25-Nov-17 20:53:21

No way Jose

riceandpeas123 Sat 25-Nov-17 20:54:46

Was he thinking this was some sort of confession amnesty? You deserve so much better, sorry op sad

BrandNewHouse Sat 25-Nov-17 20:54:58

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SparklyMagpie Sat 25-Nov-17 20:55:33

Why the fuck would you? I mean seriously...

garmsfresh Sat 25-Nov-17 20:56:25

You really need to ask LOL

notangelinajolie Sat 25-Nov-17 20:56:27

Telling you isn't going to change anything, he still did it. He sounds like an idiot. Get rid and find someone who respects you.

aliceralice123 Sat 25-Nov-17 20:56:35

Thank you all so much, it is good to know that my thoughts are not irrational!

CoyoteCafe Sat 25-Nov-17 21:07:35

no no no
I also gently suggest that you work on yourself to avoid getting swept into another relationship with another wanker so quickly.

HelenaHB Sat 25-Nov-17 21:20:20

He sounds like a complete ass. Run for the hills!

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