I am suffering from social anxiety and through a bit of counselling and some self reflection I have come to realise that I am shit at making my boundaries clear to people.
I am quite friendly and caring by nature and don't like a take it or leave approach for myself. I know 'no!' is a complete sentence but i like to be more personable than just saying "no".
How can I calmly arrange my life to not yield to other people's will and want without sounding harsh.
I already know that I am too lenient at the beginning of friendships as I like to present myself in an open and warm way (suits my nature more than cool and detached). I believe that many people mistake my friendliness as weakness and feel free to boss me about.
I want to find my inner strength how do I go about this.
I fear that I will 'loose' people or annoy them and make them angry if I don't accommodate their preferences.
Oddly this is not at all how I was raised, my parents were supportive and respected my boundaries.
Please or to access all these features
Please
or
to access all these features
Mumsnet has not checked the qualifications of anyone posting here. If you need help urgently or expert advice, please see our domestic violence webguide and/or relationships webguide. Many Mumsnetters experiencing domestic abuse have found this thread helpful: Listen up, everybody
Relationships
Tough love advice on healthy boundaries please
4 replies
TiniestTree · 25/11/2017 10:31
OP posts:
Please create an account
To comment on this thread you need to create a Mumsnet account.