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You are a bad parent...

(79 Posts)
tinymango Thu 23-Nov-17 19:18:10

Parents who upload photographs of their children to Facebook without first ensuring the account is private and secure are not good parents.

Someone with average skills could geotag a photo of your child. Guess what school they go to. Get your name off Facebook along with your email and mobile number. Trace relatives and addresses and easily go in and take your child out of school or nursery with ease whilst they pretend to be someone else.

If you have photographs you want to share use an encrypted whatsapp group or via a private account.

Uploading photos of your child to share with relatives is not a good excuse. Or even as a way to archive photos. You are putting your child at risk.

Please do not be clueless.

Houseofmirth66 Thu 23-Nov-17 20:00:39

Blimey. Or they could hide outside your house, go though your bins to find your mobile number and lip read you saying your child’s name as they peered through the window.

Kelsoooo Thu 23-Nov-17 20:01:33

Jesus that sounds highly unlikely.

mustbemad17 Thu 23-Nov-17 20:02:10

Why on earth would a school or nursery hand a child over to somebody they didn't know??? Top that, why would a school/nursery hand a child over to somebody the child didn't know??!

Ohlellykelly Thu 23-Nov-17 20:05:52

I've been posting photos of my kids for 10 years. Maybe they set up a bug in my house, heard my kids and changed their minds on the kidnap

Pengggwn Thu 23-Nov-17 20:07:25

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hollowtree Thu 23-Nov-17 20:07:32

Just in case you get some angry replies... my SIL is a primary school teacher and this exact thing has happened at her school. One of the children (let's say George) was walking out of the school and heard "George! Hi! I'm your parents [mum's name and dad's name known] friend and I've come to get you because they're busy at work doing [their jobs known] so come with me back to your home in [their home known]". This is enough to convince any child... luckily the teachers intervened and the child was made to wait for his parents who did in fact turn up to get him, on time, with no friend arranged. The man disappeared and did not return, but this story was enough to scare me off ever uploading pictures to social media

TheFifthKey Thu 23-Nov-17 20:08:26

That actually happened?

Toprate Thu 23-Nov-17 20:10:03

Someone who really wanted to abduct a child would not need to go to those lengths.

vvviola Thu 23-Nov-17 20:10:04

But hollowtree, someone could pick most of that information up by hanging around at pick up/drop off. And probably much easier than trying to put together all the information from a social media account.

Pengggwn Thu 23-Nov-17 20:10:43

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mustbemad17 Thu 23-Nov-17 20:14:02

The lesson there surely is to teach your kids as soon as they are old enough that they never leave with someone they don't know? We were always taught as kids that only people you know will collect you, or the school will know someone else is coming. That was before social media!!!

Pengggwn Thu 23-Nov-17 20:16:47

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loveablether Thu 23-Nov-17 20:19:11

Good talking point - did anyone else see the video on YouTube of the guy asking the parents permission then approaching child in playpark and simply saying “I have a puppy, wanna see?” And the kids going off with them? Fucking terrifying.

What things do you tell your kids for safety? Passwords?

mustbemad17 Thu 23-Nov-17 20:19:21

Younger children i can well imagine, but then round here the kids don't leave school premises without an adult so that deals with that quite efficiently.

There are so many ways someone could get to your child. Photos on FB is probably one of the lowest areas of risk!

tinymango Thu 23-Nov-17 20:19:24

@houseofmirth66 This is an example to demonstrate the ease of finding and collating information just by a having a quick browse on someones page. Plus, the web is open to a lot more people

Unfortunately it does happen. There may always be some low risk but, why increase the risk by putting information out on the web without taking the necessary precautions first? It's not just about the nursery/school scenario but, why would you want random people having access to photos of your children? What is the need?

mustbemad17 Thu 23-Nov-17 20:21:21

Loveblether we use passwords here. Always used passwords with nursery if a friend had to collect; the password was changed each time & agreed over the phone when we called to change arrangements.

There's a fab video online of a bloke approaching a young girl with the exact story someone mentioned above; parents late/ill, i'll take you to them. The girl asked for the password & obv the guy didn't know it; she then knew to scream/shout & run. Brilliant

tinymango Thu 23-Nov-17 20:21:30

I place tons of emphasis on 'stranger danger'.

tinymango Thu 23-Nov-17 20:22:02

@mustbemad17 what a great idea!! Never thought of passwords!

mustbemad17 Thu 23-Nov-17 20:22:46

At one point your child was statistically more likely to be hurt by someone they knew. Not sure if the stats are still the same. How do we protect against that?

mustbemad17 Thu 23-Nov-17 20:23:31

TinyMango honestly, a godsend of an idea. And can be something so simple your LO won't have to fret to remember...but won't forget either if that makes sense?

anothernetter Thu 23-Nov-17 20:23:53

Wow thanks OP I'm glad you have written this post I feel totally naive but am going to start updating my Facebook now

Pengggwn Thu 23-Nov-17 20:24:04

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AgentProvocateur Thu 23-Nov-17 20:24:13

Yep, child theft is a huge problem. There have been so many cases of a stranger stealing a child from school or nursery after seeeunf their photo on social media hmmhmm

anothernetter Thu 23-Nov-17 20:26:20

What a horrible world we live in knowing that there are predators out there who would snatch our kids given half the chance

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