Rather than go through the whole financial divorce court process.
How can I tell him what I want without both of our Form Es being on the table? His is spectacularly incomplete but he doesn't see this. He thinks I have lied on mine. I haven't. Apparently his solicitors only received some of my documentation - one account. I don't think this is true. Everything H says makes me feel like I am going mad.
He says he will not be told by other people how to divide things up and the money we are spending on solicitors is the kids'. I agree but I still can't just "tell him what I want". For a start he hasn't had any of his properties valued. And has put the purchase price down for two of them (but not for the marital home).
I would stop talking to him altogether and only go through a solicitor. Ask your solicitor to write a letter informing his solicitor that despite your attempts to reach a settlement with incurring excessive costs he has not been equally compliant and has been harsassing you. As a result all communications will go through your solicitor and the incurred costs will be his fault.
Agree solicitor now - yes they cost money but your husband by asking you what you want has nothing to do with the children - unless you both know what the assets are and what you're entitled to / options are how can you possibly know what you want - none of us can make sensible decisions when stressed/ vulnerable - sure prolonged wrangling of the sort that usually makes it into the tabloids is destructive and only makes money for the lawyers but would take a guess that's not you
Don't be emotionally manipulated by him....let the solicitors deal with it as they know what they are doing your solicitor will make sure you get what your entitled to...Tell him your solicitor has advised you not to discuss financial matters with him...,stick to your guns....good luck I know it's hard but you need the best financial outcome possible and only your solicitor can get that for you....stay strong
We have solicitors already. I don't know how he has so mis-understood form e or the whole process. He has not engaged at all and in any case never takes on board what "authority" says.
We are supposed to exchange questionnaires and when he sees my solicitor's he is going to do his nut. She is basically asking him for the whole thing again as he has not provided it properly. He really and truly seems not to understand the process.
Can you tell him once he has completed the form properly, you will tell him what you want? Unless he does that, it's solicitors all the way. Then take advice from your solicitor re: whether the form is properly filled in and what you ask him for.
It does sound like yours is ultimately a solicitors and court situation though if he has multiple properties and is being obstructive.