Dear Mumsnetters who read my first thread, I really really need your help making a decision. I need to decide by tonorrow morning at the latest.
My full thread is here: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/3012669-Hes-from-the-country-Im-from-the-city-feel-like-am-slowly-dying
Its important for context.
We went to see two houses in The Town.
House 1 we both liked and it had a garage (his major must have criteria).
House 2 I absolutely loved and he was less fond of. It had no garage. We went to see it because he said if he fell in love with the house he would do without the garage.
I got a call from the agency today to say the landlords of both houses are happy to rent to us.
The problem is House 1 they want us to take now. I have to give 3 months notice on my current flat. So it basically means I have to pay double rent for 3 months, as well as pay put roughly £2000 (first month, deposit, agency fee).
House 2 I still have to pay the £2000 but no double rent as it is to let from February.
I say I, because he doesn't have the money to help at all with this. We're splitting the rent 1/3 him and 2/3 me because I earn more, but he is low income and wont be able to start help pay rent until he has moved out of the other place (like most people).
I dont know what to do.
Clearly I want House 2 - I love it and the handover period means no unnecessary expense - perfect.
On the other hand, having a garage is very important to him and House 1 fits that criteria.
On the other hand, I feel like I've made sacrifices and now its hia turn.
On the other hand, we're supposed to be a team.
On the other hand, all the money side falls to me.
On the other hand, thats an unhealthy power imbalance if I go ahead with House 2, surely?
Please help, I cant see the wood for the trees. I want to be fair.
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Major decision - I need to be fair. Urgent!
splendidisolation · 23/11/2017 10:38
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