I feel like I miss a physical relationship and maybe some of the emotional intimacy too. But online dating makes me feel out of control. If I go on dates, I end up drinking, which is terrible for me, as I get horrible depressive, existential hangovers (the type that Kingsley Amis referred to as a shimmering, metaphysical hangover.
Mid week dating exhausts me at work. I only have every other weekend free. I'm busy with kids and work.
I don't seem to meet anyone I fancy anyway. So it leaves me feeling fed up.
Last week I thought I'd wind up two young men who wanted a threesome. I had no intention of having one! I ended up feeling a bit violated for having the conversation though. I didn't say anything sexual to them, but the whole online dating thing in general feels cheap, somehow.
The whole process: the influx of messages; the objectifying nature of the dating scene; the emptiness of it, just feels so out of control.
Does anyone else feel like this?
I know the usual advice is to avoid online dating and take up a hobby etc, but the things I'm interested in tend to be female dominated pursuits and meet up didn't seem fruitful either.
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Does anyone else find that dating makes them feel out of control?
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Farontothemaddingcrowd · 22/11/2017 20:03
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