My divorced MIL in her seventies has recently become housebound and practically bedbound. Poor state of health for several reasons. Broke hip and now struggles to walk more a one step and is petrified of falling over. has carers come to her home to dress, wash and bring her meals and snacks etc.
DH and I have just separated. Totally different kettle of fish. Anyway, MIL has 3 children: DH, DBIL and DSIL. I will spend Christmas day with my parents. DH says he will stay at our house on Christmas Day and is likely to visit his M for a few hours and watch some TV with her. DBIL and partner are not local and own dogs that they could not bring to DMIL's house as she does not want the dogs messing in her house/garden. DSIL lives pretty local to her DM but she has one DC and says Christmas Day is her only day in the year that she can stay indoors all day and not drive anywhere and therefore have a few alcoholic drinks. DMIL needs a toilet nearby and needs her carers to come in as usual to help her with dressing and making sure she has drinks and food put in front of her. This means DMIL will most likely be alone on Christmas Day. I find this really uncomfortable and sad. It really would not be that much trouble to try to make DMIL's Christmas Day enjoyable. Would it? I can't get over how selfish her 3 DC are likely to be on this one day of the year. Historically DMIL is/was a a massive fan of Christmas and would prepare the house, decorations, food and stuff weeks in advance. This year she'll be lucky if she gets a telephone call and her paid carers calling on her. It makes me cry.
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MIL alone on Christmas
Todayfrustratingday · 22/11/2017 18:06
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