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The images he left on my phone after borrowing it for a month....

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Stacey761 Tue 21-Nov-17 16:01:04

Hi ladies!
Advice would be greatly appreciated here! I'm sure we've all come across this issue before.
So, me and my partner have been together for 2 years. He went travelling for 3 months a year ago (I went with him for a month)
Anyway, we have recently moved in together. (Renting)
His phone had broken so I lent him my old one. He gave it back and I went to factory restore it so I could sell it. I didn't snoop at anything but I noticed his photos were on one drive (as I was removing accounts). I saw our travel photos and went through them as they were of us. But when I got to the part after I had returned to the UK... I saw about 4 videos of him ejaculating and more dick pictures. These were not sent to me. There were also photos of an ex college student he used to teach that he had saved from her Facebook profile.
I stumbled across them completely innocently and I did not check his messages to look for answers. About an hour after it had digested... I decided to confront him. And I had predicted what his answer would be... "i was going to send them to you" and surely enough, that was his excuse along with "I wanted to see how it looked, I've done this a few times"
So... my instinct in this day and age is that they were for someone, even though he has sworn that they were not sent to anyone)

What are people's thoughts? It's very unlikely that they were for his own benefit but he won't admit to anything. It's very bizarre. Anyone been here before? What did you do? I don't know if I should just forget the whole situation or not!
What is it with men and their obsession with dick pics aye!!!!

Justbookedasummmerholiday Tue 21-Nov-17 16:02:58

You already know the answer don't you?
He is a lying twat.

LevelHeading Tue 21-Nov-17 16:03:58

He's lying to you.

Why do guys think anyone would want to see a photo of their dick, let alone a video of them ejaculating??

SausagePerfume Tue 21-Nov-17 16:04:08

Chances are he'll never tell the truth.
Now you have the choice of whether to believe him or not.
What is your gut telling you?

Giraffeski Tue 21-Nov-17 16:04:30

If he sent them via WhatsApp they would have been automatically saved to the camera roll.

TammySwansonTwo Tue 21-Nov-17 16:24:51

Slightly alarmed by your first para - there are plenty of men who aren't this shitty, don't feel like this is just what you have to put up with! I used to feel the same but it's not the case.

What a scumbag.

Stacey761 Tue 21-Nov-17 16:27:51

We had an issue when he admitted to sexting someone at the beginning of our relationship. (This came out after travelling). After me digging at him, he finally came clean about it. (I discovered because she told my friend)
His mum is very dear to him and I had to use the old "swear on your mum's life trick to which he couldn't. That's how he admitted it. However, whilst my gut is telling me the videos were sent to someone, he has sworn on his mum's life that they weren't. So I genuinely don't know what to believe!
We've only been at our house for 1 month. Crikey I wish I had seen this sooner!
I have no idea how I will ever figure out what the real truth is!

inlectorecumbit Tue 21-Nov-17 16:34:15

Liar liar pants on fire..

why did he not send them bearing in mind it was more than l picture taken..
He has form. don't be daft you know that "swear on mum's life" is just a whole load of rubbish.
Go with your gut..it's rarely wrong

Wolfiefan Tue 21-Nov-17 16:37:11

1. Not everyone here is a lady
2. Nope. Never had to deal with sleazeball behaviour like this.
3. He's a sexting dick pic sending twit.
When someone shows you their true character you should take note.
Get house hunting!

Bendyandtheinkmachine Tue 21-Nov-17 16:37:38

To be honest OP you don’t trust him so what’s the point? Do you constantly want to be worrying about whether he is cheating or not? I would put money on he has.

Wolfiefan Tue 21-Nov-17 16:38:13

I forgot. "Swear on your mum's life?" Is he 12?
Move on and find a grown up.

Bendyandtheinkmachine Tue 21-Nov-17 16:38:55

Wolfiefan - my 7 year old DD says that!

Wolfiefan Tue 21-Nov-17 16:40:41

grin Bendy.

FizzyGreenWater Tue 21-Nov-17 16:51:16

Just dump. No point whatsoever in this joker.

Stacey761 Tue 21-Nov-17 16:53:21

I have told him that I don't believe him and he is not happy.

He's managed to flip it around- the issue now is my lack of trust apparently, not the pictures. Hmmmm.

shoeaddict83 Tue 21-Nov-17 16:57:52

and what was the explanation for the ex -college students photos hes downloaded??

DrPill Tue 21-Nov-17 16:58:08

I have a male friend who films himself doing this. As far as I know he doesn't send them. He's gay but I'm not sure if that makes a difference.

dreamingofprairies Tue 21-Nov-17 16:58:38

Sounds like he is lying.

And can you really stay with someone you don't trust?

FizzyGreenWater Tue 21-Nov-17 16:58:43

Ha!!

Nice try.

'Yep, looks that way. You poor thing, having to put up with all this crap. I will not waste a moment more of your valuable, honest, non-bullshitty time. I will even help you pack smile '

hellsbellsmelons Tue 21-Nov-17 17:03:01

This is how I found out my ExP was basically cheating.
A video of him wanking in the bath.
Lovely!!!
Did you buy the house together?
If so you will need to remain there for 6 months before you can sell.
Could get awkward.

Mamabear4180 Tue 21-Nov-17 17:03:29

I had an ex years ago who used to film himself masturbating. It's not completely unbelievable.

You don't trust him though so I guess it's over and why would he download a pic of a college student..seems wrong.

MrsXx4 Tue 21-Nov-17 17:03:50

I would really struggle with this and I would not believe a word of what he is saying.

Although he did swear on his mums life soooo.......

hmm

cakecakecheese Tue 21-Nov-17 17:03:58

Cheeky git, lack of trust indeed! Er considering what you found and his previous I'd say any lack of trust is justified and he should be trying to convince you that he's not been sending them to anyone, not flipping it back on you.

It's your old phone so do you know any way of checking if they have been sent? Sent email/text folders etc?

Lambside Tue 21-Nov-17 17:07:49

Yuck!
I'd end it. He has previous and you will never be able to trust him now.

Animation86 Tue 21-Nov-17 17:08:34

I didn't snoop at anything Its your phone, and no point justifying it - hes got explaining to do, not you

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