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Help me stay NC - there's no point telling him this, is there?

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MiracleCure Mon 20-Nov-17 12:41:05

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shushpenfold Mon 20-Nov-17 12:42:23

He’s pushing your buttons to get a reply. Block him. X

HoofWankingSpangleCunt Mon 20-Nov-17 12:43:30

Let's find some pictures of cute animals..
<insert favourite here>
Ill start...

MiracleCure Mon 20-Nov-17 12:44:56

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BitOutOfPractice Mon 20-Nov-17 12:45:08

There's no point at all. It will just gratify him that you're agonising over him. Do you want to give him that satisfaction? No?

Go for a walk for 15 minutes without your phone till the moment passes.

MiracleCure Mon 20-Nov-17 12:45:21

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BitOutOfPractice Mon 20-Nov-17 12:45:53

And i know from personal experience how hard this stuff is. Stay strong OP

HoofWankingSpangleCunt Mon 20-Nov-17 12:46:42

tallwivglasses Mon 20-Nov-17 12:46:50

Well done you! Really though, is there anything you could say that would make him go 'Hallelujah - I've seen the light!' ? No. So stop wasting your emotional energy and time on him. You could be doing something creative/exercising/netflixing. Don't give him another thought.

MiracleCure Mon 20-Nov-17 12:46:54

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FizzyGreenWater Mon 20-Nov-17 12:47:50

You can't ensure that by contacting him, though!

All you'll do is make him grin.

Don't do it, and if you hear any reports - politely correct them.

However, anyone with any sense will listen to someone shouting the odds and being SO KEEN to let people know 'the real story' and think 'Ha two sides to that one!!'

The best way to get to him now? Ignore totally.

SendintheArdwolves Mon 20-Nov-17 12:48:57

If you text him, it will just weaken your position. You KNOW you will regret it the instant the text is sent, so DON'T.

Also - there is nothing you can do to control how he spins this breakup to anyone. He can tell everyone that you begged him for marriage or seduced his brother or are actually a mermaid, and there's nothing you can do about that. You sending him a text saying "and just to be clear, don't be telling everyone that we broke up bc I wanted a relationship and you didn't" won't actually have any effect.

MiracleCure Mon 20-Nov-17 12:49:45

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BitOutOfPractice Mon 20-Nov-17 12:52:02

Even if he does get in touch just ignore him.

A wise man once told me "The best answer is no answer"

I am currently NC with him grin

Every minute you don't contact him you are winning <punches air>

SendintheArdwolves Mon 20-Nov-17 12:52:31

...sorry, that didn't sound very helpful!

What I mean is that you have to rise above it. It is not something you have to worry about, so forget about it.

Also, anyone who hears him sorrowfully saying "Yes, me and Miracle broke up bc she wanted a relationship and I just wanted it to be casual" isn't going to think "Wow, what a studly hero! Miracle must be a total loser - fancy wanting a relationship!". They're going to look at him and think "Hmmm. You sound like a bit of a twat, actually. I expect Miracle can do better."

HoofWankingSpangleCunt Mon 20-Nov-17 12:52:32

Ach, are you going to spend time worryng about what people think when he tells his version? Life is way too short. You know the truth and I suspect, by you wanting to go nc, that he has been a knob perhaps.
In which case you're free of him and that's the sort of thinking which is helpful. Other than that, pay him no mind.
Are you on pinterest Op?
Loads of cool things to spend too much time there.

MiracleCure Mon 20-Nov-17 12:54:01

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HoofWankingSpangleCunt Mon 20-Nov-17 12:56:08
Look at the face on this furry fucker!

HoofWankingSpangleCunt Mon 20-Nov-17 12:56:39

Or dont 😂😂

HoofWankingSpangleCunt Mon 20-Nov-17 12:58:42

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MiracleCure Mon 20-Nov-17 12:59:06

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BitOutOfPractice Mon 20-Nov-17 12:59:41

Look! A bunny in a mug. Nobody can help but be distracted by a bunny in a mug.

I could post you a picture of the pie I made last night if you like. NB: this is NOT related to the bunny in a mug

MiracleCure Mon 20-Nov-17 13:00:01

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MiracleCure Mon 20-Nov-17 13:00:49

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BitOutOfPractice Mon 20-Nov-17 13:06:06

My pie <preens>

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