My son lives about 150 miles away with his DP and their son (2) with a new baby on the way in 2 months. The place (rented house) is really, REALLY awful - loose dirt mixed with child's toys all over floors, mould on walls, piles of mess with nothing ever picked up or put away, filthy kitchen with washing-up and food left for days, leaking loo with loose seat, bags of kitchen rubbish in entrance room, and worst of all every night about 30 huge slugs crawl around in the kitchen, on worktops, on 'clean' washed plates which are then used to serve food on, etc. Once my son gets back from work, all they do is cook dinner then sit around on their mobile phones or watch DVDs while I play with my grandson. I've tried tidying at night while they're asleep, offered to help, or even to tidy it myself, and my son was offended and said I shouldn't criticise because it's their house. My son and his DP are perfectly happy with the mess and filth, don't like the house but they can't move as rent is cheap and they are poor. I suggested they must be busy having a blitz to get the house clean for the baby and he said there was no need to clean yet as it wasn't due for two months. He wasn't joking. I try hard not to upset them, I like my future DIL a lot but she had dysfunctional parents who never showed her what a nice home was like. I feel she should tidy it because my son works full-time, and he should help at evenings/weekends, but they've made it clear my opinion is not wanted so now I don't say anything, just smile, eat politely off the sluggy plates and then cry and be sick on the way home. I blame myself for not bringing my son up to expect the house tidy - but ours wasn't dirty and disgusting, just a bit messy and homely. I live in fear that social workers will take my grandson away. I'm moving house right now, will be 250 miles away soon, so can only visit about every 6 months.
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New baby is coming to a filthy house full of slugs
EmilyGB · 20/11/2017 04:34
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