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Have great in laws generally but there have been a few issues. They live 1.5 hours drive away and SIL lives nearby and has adult children.
The first issue is that they never visit us. Mil and partner came for the morning when DD was born 5 years ago. Other than that they have never been to our house. This means we have to take DD and dog there if we want to see them. The house is completely unsuitable for children. It's filthy.
Main reason for MIL not coming to visit is that she has elderly v demented parents living with her.
I have tried to be supportive DIL by offering to stay for weekend so that she and partner could go out for dinner etc. She asked us to pop up once for W/E to look after the parents. We droppped everything (cancelled a planned weekend away with friends mainly because we were really pleased as she had never asked before) went up and they left the house for an hour!!!
I have sent details of respite carers who could go in for the evening/stay overnight or allow her to come here for the day but she won't consider it.
SIL lives round corner and has NEVER offered to help with elderly parents.
Most recently SIL and partner arranged to come and stay with us for weekend. We were both really chuffed. I bought in food to cook us all a lovely 3 course dinner and also bought nice wine/breakfast stuff/different types of beer for partner as not sure what he likes. We organised a babysitter for tonight and booked nice restaurant.
They cancelled yesterday afternoon due to a very spurious reason (would be too outing to mention here)
I was furious. DH has I think finally got to the point where he gives up too. He was really upset.
There have occasionally been other weird things that have happened. I wanted to buy MIL a pandora bracelet for a sig birthday. I asked SIL whether she already had one and she said No. I presented MIL with said bracelet and she said she already had one. I told her I had checked with SIL and she said she had told her she already had one!!!!
I also offered to help out at Christmas. MIL asked me to bring a whole load of dessert. Enough for 20 people. I made home made cheesecake and pavlovas etc. Turned up and MIL had bought a whole load of frozen desserts which she served.
We get on superficially but I'm trying to work out all this weird behaviour....
there's no relationship here really is there?
Sorry it's so long....
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Bigfoot1 · 18/11/2017 10:39
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