Long term poster on here who has name changed for this as family members use this site and don't want them to twig it's me.
I've been with my OH for a year and we don't live together (don't have any kids or anything like that either).
When we first got together he was very hot and cold. He ended things a few times in the first 3 months but always said he'd made a mistake and wanted me back.
We haven't split up for 9 months now and seem to be in a much happier place and have been discussing me moving in with him.
That was, until last night!
I questioned him about why he used to finish with me a lot and he eventually admitted it was because I was bigger than what he normally found attractive. I was a size 14-16 then but I'm tall and have always been toned. I just had really wide hips and bum etc. I asked him if he'd thought I was fat and his response was "you know you were but you've lost some weight since then so it's all good".
I'm now a size 12 and he makes little remarks here and there like "when you lose another stone I'll take you away on holiday"
Or
"You're going to look amazing once you lose more weight".
I don't really know how to take this - do you think he's just being honest and it's not a big deal, or do you think he's really out of order?
I was very upset when he told me last night as it's not nice to hear that someone you love has thought negative thoughts about the way you look and tried to split up with you multiple times over it. Maybe I'm just being insecure though.
Thoughts please x
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Lulutiger1 · 18/11/2017 08:50
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