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He has accused me of something I haven't done and walked away again

(36 Posts)
Dontspeaktome Tue 14-Nov-17 22:43:20

Please tell me if you think he is making this up just because he changed his mind about having me in his life.

I love my ex. We haven't spoken for 4 months when we broke up and he cut me off. Our relationship got toxic.
He has accused me several times of different things including being a prostitute
He does suffer from paranoia.

I saw him and spoke to him on Sunday We went to a hotel and had sex. Everything was great and I miss4d him and was happy we were talking again.

Today he has called me to accuse me of writing his mother a letter. I don't know what this letter says but he told me his mother is kicking him out of his house and won't speak to him.

He told me it's my hand writing as it's the same as the writing I did on a birthday card.

I asked what it said and to let me see it and he said no he doesn't want to speak to me anymore and he is cutting everyone off
And apparently I'm the only one who knows his house like that.

To me this does not make sense for it to be me to a rational thinking person but he is saying it's me.

Do you think this is made up?

Neither of us have children I just come on this site because I like the fprum. We are both in our 20s.

Thank you

RunRabbitRunRabbit Tue 14-Nov-17 22:45:32

Who cares?! Either way he is not a keeper. Run away fast. He has done you a big favour.

WombOfOnesOwn Tue 14-Nov-17 22:46:23

Yeah, this sounds like a man with psychosis. My second husband had psychosis. Marrying him was a TERRIBLE mistake. You are best off running, not walking, away.

Greedynan Tue 14-Nov-17 22:48:22

If you didn't write the letter then either:
- he's making it up for whatever reason.
- somebody else write the letter.
- he's deluded.

You mentioned he suffers from paranoia. Does he have a diagnosis?

Battleax Tue 14-Nov-17 22:49:57

Don't engage. It's either gas lighting or extreme MH issues. Not your problem any more flowers

C0untDucku1a Tue 14-Nov-17 22:51:33

Block and delete.

unfortunateevents Tue 14-Nov-17 22:53:35

Who cares whether he is making this up or genuinely believes that you wrote this letter? This man is not someone you can have any future with. He is either very unwell or he is a cruel person who is messing with your mind for his own twisted reasons. Either way, you cannot be with him. Block him on your phone, social media, every way possible.

TheNaze73 Wed 15-Nov-17 07:57:17

He’s regretting the sex.

He also is not worth a second more of your thoughts. Walk away

Justbookedasummmerholiday Wed 15-Nov-17 08:00:14

Sounds like he has done you a favour. Find someone who has some respect for you - you deserve more than a man who accuses you of selling your body!!

kalinkafoxtrot45 Wed 15-Nov-17 08:02:22

Whatever's up with this man, forget him. No more contact.

TrojansAreSmegheads Wed 15-Nov-17 08:04:05

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

SandyY2K Wed 15-Nov-17 08:05:29

Contact his mum and ask what this is about... it personally I'd block him out of my life.

Do you really need this headache.

CJCreggsGoldfish Wed 15-Nov-17 08:05:37

Walk away OP. You can't help or change him. This isn't a life you want to lead, delete and block his number.

category12 Wed 15-Nov-17 08:08:19

His mental health could have got worse. Either way, you're best off out of it.

Butterymuffin Wed 15-Nov-17 08:08:54

Ditch this guy for good. You can do better.

AnnaBay Wed 15-Nov-17 08:12:06

I'd bet my last pound that there is no letter.
It's just another batshit crazy notion he's come up with to cause you unnecessary angst for reasons known to himself.

Ignore and block any further contact. He's not worth your time.

ShatnersWig Wed 15-Nov-17 08:21:49

Dear God above, you need to come on hear to ask for advice?

He dumped you previously, you admit it was a toxic relationship, that he accused you of being a prostitute and that he suffers from paranoia. So after four months you go and get a hotel room, fuck him, and think everything is going to wonderful this time? Wake up and smell the coffee. You're in your 20s, not 16!

Can you really not see that getting involved AGAIN with this man is a toxic as fuck? Walk away and have NOTHING to do with him EVER again.

DressedCrab Wed 15-Nov-17 08:25:01

Let him go. Really this man is poison.

prh47bridge Wed 15-Nov-17 08:37:23

It may be that there really is a letter.

It may be that his mother has invented the letter to give her a pretext to throw him out.

It may be that his mother has thrown him out and he has imagined the letter as an explanation.

It may be that this is all his paranoia.

It may be that he has made up the whole thing as a way of dumping you.

There may be some other explanation I haven't thought of.

There is no way of telling. It doesn't matter. Stay away from him.

blueskyinmarch Wed 15-Nov-17 08:37:55

Of course it is made up - you didn't write a letter therefore there is no letter from you. It is clear he has significant MH issues. If you don't want to be dealing with this for the rest of your life then you need to walk away from him as hard as that might be.

reachforthestarseveryday Wed 15-Nov-17 08:38:28

Toxic relationship. He has accused you several times of different things including being a prostitute. He does suffer from paranoia.

Which things made you think it was a good idea to rekindle your relationship and have sex with him, OP?

He's either mentally ill or a sick bastard. Either way, run for the hills. You can't mend him or change him.

expatinscotland Wed 15-Nov-17 08:40:50

He's a fuckwit. Bin him off.

Lovemenoooooww Wed 15-Nov-17 08:41:00

This situation is really weird. He’s a weirdo and will continue to make up more rubbish and confuse you. It will get worse.

dietcokebreaktime Wed 15-Nov-17 08:42:09

Before you know it you'll start to believe him! BIN BIN BIN!

LIZS Wed 15-Nov-17 08:44:42

Not worth the headspace. You meet, have sex and he has accused you of being a prostitute - yet it is ok fir him to treat you like one. Whatever his issues , you can choose to move on.

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