Me and my ex split over issues with his drinking and aggression. Both his parents are alcoholics, and his father abused his mother - he mentioned how this relationship was reminding him of his father.
To name a few times, he has squared up to me where security guards had to intervene, has compared me to other girls he's slept with, has broken things off three times because I said something "wrong" when he was drunk, let a female friend sleep next to him in our bed after a night of heavy drinking. And he left me with facial bruising, a cut eye, a bloodied nose and internal bleeding after having sex after we broke up (where I was myself intoxicated).
After seeing the pictures of what he did to me, he was really really upset, scared and haunted - in his own words. He vowed to get therapy to help him and that he would stop drinking with immediate effect. This was 2 weeks ago. Last night, I found out he was in the pub we used to go to with his mates. A week before, he informed me the night after that he had gone for a pint with his workmates as he was leaving.
I'm devastated he hasn't taken this seriously at all. I am thinking of sending him a text basically outlining when it's not on, and that I don't want any further contact. Is that a good idea, or would it be better to literally just block him and let him get on with it.
I'm probably more sad as I'm going through a really hard time, and he has acted like he was there for me, but really just going out and getting pissed.
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my ex has broken the promise already
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AprilFall · 13/11/2017 11:14
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