no dc. will this get better? he says he's not in love with me, but still loves me. we argue all the time. rarely have sex.
i want it to work - my family are christian as am i and i dont want to end the marriage for that reason, but i am aware we cant go on like this. he says he wants to work at it too hence counselling (it was my suggestion).
ive suspected him of an affair, he says no. i believe him but obviously have doubts now and then to have to ask. truth be told i dont think his heart is in it.
not sure how it got to this stage. we were happy before we got married but he now says he had doubts even before then because things were stressful leading up to it and to be fair things did shift a bit, we weren't really 'us' - it was just all wedding wedding wedding.
we do have nice times, but it is all they are - we dont chat properly and laugh, i dont particularly look forward to seeing him. he works a lot, never really seems in a rush to come home ever. that said, we both feel embarrassed about the situation, which is why we have tried counselling. i do still love him, but it doesnt change all the above.
any stories of recovery? would you stay or go?
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pieceofpietuesday · 12/11/2017 21:41
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