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I need to cut this out, don't I?

(8 Posts)
McBounty Sat 11-Nov-17 23:06:21

DH and I have been having a lot of marital issues. I felt I wanted to separate. I asked him to leave, so tonight he did. We said that this may just be temporary but we're not quite sure yet.

I have been talking to another man that has shown me a lot of interest lately. I see this other man at Church and every now and again through the week, but we mainly speak on Facebook. I've never crossed a line with this man, I never will unless DH and I decide to end the marriage.

This other man and I seem to be drawing closer and closer together. The more we talk, the stronger we are feeling.

I need to cut this out, right?
I have never been so confused.

SchnitzelVonKrumm Sat 11-Nov-17 23:11:07

Yes if you’re serious about fixing your marriage. Can’t have a foot in both camps.

Josuk Sat 11-Nov-17 23:19:40

You asked your H to leave. You don’t sound like you want to work on your marriage. Or hope that you’ll fix it.
And you haven’t crossed any lines with that man.

What specifically are you confused about?
Whether you actually want your H gone? - in that case - yes, that other man is a distraction.
If you are confused about something else - say - about what you feel for this new man - than it’s a whole other story.

Life is not black and white. Yours seems to be undergoing changes. And that can be confusing.
Good luck!!!

McBounty Sat 11-Nov-17 23:21:21

I wasn't serious about it, but I think the reality has hit me tonight.

This guy isn't as important to me as my husband is.

Shockers Sat 11-Nov-17 23:23:42

The grass is always greenest where you water it most.

McBounty Sat 11-Nov-17 23:31:40

Shockers - that's very true.

doodle01 Sat 11-Nov-17 23:41:45

Why did he leave must have wanted to go why didnt you leave.
Hes out newone in - thats how hell see it. Hope there are no kids involved that will really wind him up big time

Angelf1sh Sun 12-Nov-17 07:05:12

Yes.

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