..listen to you? In particular how you feel? Like if you’re having a really bad time i.e. were in trauma therapy for a number of serious things, would he hold you and listen to you?
I ask because I’m in the drawn out process of separating from my otherwise very lovely DH who has Aspergers (diagnosed in the past few years). Not once in our relationship (10 yrs) has he done that. I’m not allowed to discuss emotions at all - not even allowed to get tooo excited or happy about things unless he is. It’s very painful (hence the separation) but “the norm”. My therapist has asked a few times if I can imagine a partner being there for me emotionally. I didn’t grow up with a father so I’ve never seen or experienced this. I absolutely can’t imagine it in RL, only some saccharine movie.
Do emotionally open and available men really exist? Do male partners exist who would hold you when you’re crying and listen to you talk about what’s hurting? AND be honest, caring, not manipulative or cheat on you? It sounds like I have a terrible view of men and while I don’t have great relationship experiences, I don’t hate them at all!
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Does your DH/DP (male)..
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