I'm in mid 40s married for 25 years with 2 teenage DC. When I was 18 I had a 2 year relationship with my first love. We broke up and didn't have any contact for a few years.
He went on to marry and I met my DH. About a year after meeting dh I bumped into ex on a night out and we kissed. A few days later he came to my house and said he still loved me. It went no further.
A few years later I'd married dh and we had children, my ex also had children. Over the years we'd come into contact socially and always felt that something was bubbling. After a few years we began an affair that lasted 3 months. I finished it due to the guilt I felt, he did not want it to end.
About 4 years ago he got in touch with me on social media, I was polite but told him I didn't think it was appropriate.
Earlier this year he contacted me again, I replied politely as a friend and we exchanged a few friendly messages, until he told me how he felt and I said we couldn't continue being in touch.
A few months ago I bumped into him on a night out and we chatted for hours (we have mutual friends so it wouldn't have looked odd). The following day he messaged me to say he still cares about me.
Initially I said I didn't want to stay in touch as it wasn't appropriate (but the truth is I think about him all the time). He begged me to stay in touch via text and said he wouldn't push it further
Fast forward a month and we've been meeting twice a week, talking and kissing, nothing else. He texts me everyday and calls me 3-4 times per week.
He has told me on lots of occasions that he is falling in love with me and that has now progressed to "he loves me'. Last weekend he was abroad with friends and he rang me twice.
I feel the same as him but I haven't told him. This has been going on and off for 30 years now.
My DH is a lovely man and does not deserve this, neither does ex's wife.
Please talk some sense into me and make me realise that this has to stop.
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