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Not sure what to do

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Notaclue12345 Tue 07-Nov-17 18:39:02

Hi all,

I cannot believe I'm posting here for advice - again.

I posted a couple of weeks ago about my FWB,

I was getting ready to end it, but for some reason didn't. I decided not to, I decided I like him and that I was going to be brave enough to tell him so. If he didn't want more I was going to accept this and walk away. I haven't found the right time to do this.

Fast forward to now, he has had a particularly difficult weekend (to explain how would be outing), and I have tried to support him, he has admitted he doesn't want to be around people. I understand this.

Yesterday I text him to see how he is, we had a short conversation and I left him to it.

Today, I text him at lunch to tell him an invoice for something he ordered has come through to my email, I asked him if where I should send it on, I got no reply. I emailed his work email to see if he was in work, nothing, so I assumed no he wasn't. After work, I text him and said I've sent it onto his work email, still no reply.

I've decided to leave him be, but I'm so tempted to text and ask him what's going on, should I? Or should I wait and see and, if he doesn't contact me tomorrow call him?

I don't believe this is a typical ghosting situation, I've been ghosted before and this is not like that. So do I do anything or leave it be as he has had this trauma?

Notaclue12345 Tue 07-Nov-17 19:01:26


MrBloomsLeftVeg Tue 07-Nov-17 19:04:40

Sorry it doesn't sound good. If he was into you, he'd be in touch and want to be supported. I would leave well alone until he contacts you if I was in your shoes

Notaclue12345 Tue 07-Nov-17 19:17:02

That's what I was afraid of.

I'm going to pull up my big girl pants and not contact him.

If he wanted me I wouldn't be doubting him.

RickOShay Tue 07-Nov-17 19:22:30

You are definitely doing the right thing, well done, it’s not easy.

Sadlady77 Tue 07-Nov-17 19:23:11

Sorry you are going through this but I think you need to leave him be, he's clearly said he wants to be on his own and you've sent him 3 messages today. If he wants to contact you he will, in his own time.

Hope you're okay

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