Brief because I have to pick up children from school. Namechanged because I don't want this linked to previous posts.
DH wanted sex. He mentioned it Sunday morning. Sunday night he slides over to my side of the bed and runs his hand over my stomach. I have my arms over my chest and my knees together. He carries on. I don't reciprocate but just say, ok get a condom then. He does, we have sex. I didn't want to have sex.
I thought I made it clear with my body language. Why didn't I just say no? He's not violent. I am scared of the discussion that would follow if I rejected him. He would want to know why and the honest answer is that I don't fancy him at all. If I was braver I would end the marriage- for a whole load of reasons, I think we've grown apart over the last 3 years.
But why do I let him do this? Why does he want to have sex with me when I am not reciprocating?
I keep getting teary and feel sick.
Any advice much appreciated. I'll be back later so sorry if I don't reply straight away.
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