As stated really, we split up a few months ago and he’s taken it badly. He keeps trying to start arguments with me over every little thing and tries to manipulate me. We have kids together. He’s always been weird/narcissistic but he’s really doing my head in lately.
Most of the stuff he does now is via texts of which I don’t respond. Ok, I have responded when I’ve just wanted him to shut the F up, but mostly I ignore him. But given a chance he would do all this stuff to my face.
He’s really irritating to the point where today I told him to not message me unless it’s concerning the kids otherwise I will get a restraining order on him. Harsh but I had to put my foot down, I have had enough.
Not sure what I’m looking for really, I just need to get it off my chest. The way he is dealing with everything is unhealthy and yet he has always been this way which is why I don’t want him. He is mentally abusive and just comes across as a petulant school-yard bully. He makes me feel sick.
You are not alone. My ex has recently got worse in terms of trying to get to me. When he has a girlfriend I can relax but as soon as it all goes wrong for him I'm always in the firing line. He also seems to think I'd want him back
Just try to be consistent and he might get bored of it. Show no emotions to him at all, take away his power.
I’m keeping all our texts/emails in case he tries anything. I am just fed up with it all.
Anyway if getting it to stop altogether? I’ve had a really nice weekend, the kids have been at his. He brought them back today and as soon as left mine BAM! he starts texting me. He immature at best. I’m at my wits end with him. I’m kind of hoping he does get a new girl then maybe he’ll piss off.
I had similar...eventually blocked him on everything except email, and I only check that if/when DS is with him. Any communication that doesn’t concern DS gets filed, don’t acknowledge it or reply. He eventually got bored and gave up.
I can sympathise, mine is now quibbling over £17.50 saying he is financially a mess since I left. Our last conversation was me agreeing to swap some dates so he could go on 2 city breaks and a weeks trip abroad with his live in girlfriend!!
@Cakefortea1 they come out with some sh!te don’t they. Maybe they just think their actions won’t have consequences like, you know, actually being dumped for complete twats. Then they play the whole ‘woe is me, you ruined my life’ card and wonder why we have no time for them
I’m struggling to get bloody maintenance out of mine at the minute. The joke is he thinks £100 a month should cover it.